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Are you a complainer? Be honest.

Do you like being around complainers? Of course not.

The act of complaining is more than simply negative because what you are saying is negative. That negativity impacts your life. When you complain, you are focusing on what is wrong as opposed to what is right. Since we are all made up of energy, our thoughts, feelings, and words carry energy as well. The negative vibration that stems from complaining goes out into the universe, grabs other negative things, and brings them into your life in the form of unfulfilling relationships, careers, etc.

I have a challenge for you. It requires you to be very aware and mindful, to have some present moment consciousness as I like to call it. Take one day—a solid 24 hours—and every time you start to complain, catch yourself, and stop. How often do you want to complain and say something negative? It may be more often than you think. Know that bringing awareness to the habit is the first step in overcoming it and replacing it with a more positive one.

Let me know how the challenge goes for you. What did you learn? Maybe you can dig deeper and get to the root of why you complain and the dissatisfaction you feel.

Your emotional wellbeing and relationships are worth the time and effort to overcome the chronic complainer syndrome! You don’t like being around a complainer, and neither does anyone else. Be the positivity you want to draw to you.

Here is a short video to guide you through “The Uncomplain Challenge”


Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. For almost two decades, Terri has empowered companies, celebrities, professional athletes, and individuals to Live Fearless and Free. Currently, Terri is wrapping up her first solo book project, “Flip Over and Float—8 Steps to Sustainable Change,” filming “The Conversation” for the Lifetime Network, executive produced by Demi Moore, set to launch February 2012. Terri can also be seen as the guest transformation expert on A&E’s Monster In-Laws. In addition to her website, Terri can also be found on Facebook and Twitter.