“An active mind cannot exist in an inactive body.”―General George S. Patton
“Losing weight,” has a negative notion around it. It builds a constant fear. As long as you think of wanting to lose weight, that’s all you will ever want to keep doing. We are inundated with marketing campaigns that shove such an ideal right in our face. We all know that fear is the number-one seller, and what better way to instill it than on appearance.
In the instance of having a “losing weight” mindset, we surround ourselves with the words “lose, lose, and lose.” We get into the belief of losing and never seem to be winning, hence why most are never satisfied. The obsession with losing weight becomes a never-ending story.
Many of the “desirable” people shown in magazines are malnourished, airbrushed, or take extreme health risks in the hope of getting work. Having been in the clothing industry, personal training, and now in coaching, has given me a fair insight into models and other media-related personnel. I have met extraordinarily good-looking people and high-profile models throughout my life, yet some of them have the biggest insecurities with the way they look. Believe it or not, some are also the unhappiest and most unfulfilled individuals I have ever met. Don’t get me wrong—looking good is great—however you will never think you look good unless you feel great about your choice of lifestyle. You go from being happy one day to being upset the next because you want to lose a little more weight off your right butt cheek, or your left arm is smaller than the other, and this craziness continues on forever. In so many cases, it consumes someone’s whole life to the point where they forget how to live!
Full Focus on Feeling (FFF) is the key to success in any aspect. We have to shift our mindset to being healthy and fit. It’s about the feeling, not the visual appearance to others. Everyone has different opinions, so you are going to be pretty unsatisfied if you are just doing it for that reason. When you start getting a little wrinkly, or your body doesn’t seem to keep in shape as well as when you were younger, are you going to hate yourself? That’s why this world is filled with appearance challenges, because we believe that feeling great starts with outward appearance. Your body should be loved for the highly technical machine it is. It deserves respect for housing the only thing that is ever permanent: your soul.
Feeling great is the secret to everlasting happiness. When we exercise, we must amplify the importance of how it’s making us feel, because that’s what keeps us motivated. Reverse “looking good, then feeling good” to “feeling good, then looking good” because that’s the truth in remaining happy.
Bathroom scales should be smashed with a baseball bat—not the basis of your success. If you are training, you will be building muscle, which weighs more than fat. The scales can definitely mess with your mind, so I advise to just get rid of them. You are not going to see results overnight if you go for looks, but you will immediately notice results when going for the feeling.
A body builder I knew had an amazing physique, but all I would hear him do was complain about his body. To him, there was always something wrong with it, and his appearance soon became an obsession. It took control over every area of his life. He saw his relationship diminish, finances go down, and his emotional state hit its lowest point ever.
We are all imperfect if you wish to look at it that way, but I like to see it as we are all perfect. Our imperfections make us perfect. If we were all the same, this world would be pretty boring. We all have different perceptions of what we find appealing, but the point of feeling great makes you appealing to everyone. Your glow is contagious, and you will notice that when you go for the feeling, the physical shape comes rapidly along with it. I have personally trained hundreds of clients, and the ones who go for the looks to make them happy never last, or are constantly unfulfilled. Those who go for the feeling acknowledge that being healthy and fit is a lifestyle to drive them to their peak, and help them attain that balance for a great life.
Losing weight is an activity that drives us mad; thriving to be healthy and fit is a lifestyle that lasts forever.
Excerpt from “Who Says You Can’t? YOU DO” by Daniel Chidiac. Being released early 2012.
Daniel Chidiac has dedicated his life to finding the answers to “why some people are living an extraordinary life, while others are never really fulfilled?” Through his journey he has modeled the most successful people known to man, traveled overseas to meet with leaders who have the strongest mindset on the planet, interacted with exceptional achievers and coached people from all the around the globe. For more words of wisdom from Daniel, please visit him om Facebook.