Everything in life is a relationship. In our primary relationships—the ones near the epicenter of our activity—it is never productive to wait for relating to happen. You must creatively create each moment in order for momentum to take place. Guarantee the consistency of each outcome consistently. When outcomes appear to be blocked, remember that any and all blockage represents is a perfect opportunity to begin.
“No” is a starting point.
Use every blockage like a workout. Understand that the heavier the relational weight, the greater the relational possibility. Oftentimes, these relational weights are from ancient karmic memories that have grown into present moment monsters through many lifetimes of neglect. Also, relationships that are extremely enjoyable but lack the sparkling chemistry, these are huge gifts from the ancient past as well.
Sparkle is but an illusion — an illusion that can be built and then enjoyed if you learn to do the work.
A physical/chemical attraction (great chemistry) is the simple comparison of angles, genetic patterns at the core structure of your DNA. In this core of all DNA are crystals that refract and reflect the light that carries all information, and the patterns of this are what create all the sensations we refer to as chemistry. If this is the main driving force, the main attraction in a relationship, it will all be highly stimulating but definitely shallow. And by modern court records—predictably temporal—divorce rates are very high today, and this is one of the main contributions to this fact. Sparkle is the goal, and sparkle is fleeting.
This is why more conscious traditional cultures relied on arranged relationships. Here, a far more permanent event was gathered around—the compatibility of core-consciousness. To be with a best friend who, rather than measuring what they were getting out of you, had your gift of many lifetimes in their blood. This was the deepest and most meaningful of all relational experiences. Entering into the vast fields of like-mindedness, discovering lifetimes of deep trust. With such a partnership, the fascination reveals much later on amongst the depth of this trust.
The pathway of enlightenment is, of course, the fundamental purpose of all existence. Is this your destiny in this life? This is an advanced course and not of much interest to the elementary mind.
Are you more enchanted by your chemistry of a moment or your ministry to the cosmos?
Contrary to the films of Hollywood and Bollywood, there is rarely a relationship that is off the shelf, out of the box, and ready to be used without a great deal of assembly. This assembly process can take many years to accomplish, that is if one really applies sufficient concentration and works without the common setbacks of despair. Are you ready for this work? When one side goes to frailty, are you ready to go to your strength? When one side goes to confusion or bewilderment, are you ready to not go to protection and condemnation?
When any partnership is fragile, faith must compassionately prevail as the mender of hearts. This is not an arena for anyone who dislikes consequences, for the consequences in a relationship are often instantaneous and momentous. After all, relationships are mirrors of the spirit.
But do be determined to always live in a relation-ship, not a relation-canoe. Make sure that everyone can stand up.
Relationships are great teachers. They teach that life is not about changing or controlling the outside world—life is about molding and mastering the perceptions from the inside. Never demand, always compassionately command any union. Commanding is the “co” (togetherness) of the “mand” (minds). Thoughts formed from these tethered together minds display the possibilities of life and break the illusions that bind us short of our dreams. Learn to limit the thoughts that do not serve or further life’s possibilities or that produce ill will. Learn to have the authority that achieves mental and emotional clarity. Remember, you are the one who thinks and feels your thoughts and feelings. Make the choices that allow you to relate, not the ones that refuse or confuse or self-protect by remaining closed.
Relational success is never found with competition or comparison. As long as there is comparing going on, there is not relating. Be compassionate and compatible for others to aspire; be compassionate and compatible and you are one whom others will admire; be compassionate and compatible and you will recognize the other person as yourself. Then remember, every event in life—even being by yourself—is a relationship. Strive to be the best participant possible.
These Inspirational Blessings are like mantras. Reminders that cause us to think at a new angle, to shake up old patterns, to renew and rebuild our vision and purpose. We then gain insight to ignite and inspire an opening to manifest our conscious focus through conscious action.
Guru Singh is a world-renowned yoga instructor, author, musician, and family man. Guru Singh works with the Dalai Lama, teaches with Tony Robbins, and has recorded an album with Grammy® Award-winning artist Seal. He can also be found on Facebook and Twitter.