What other people think about you is none of your business.
It’s their business.
Wasting your time thinking about what they are thinking about you serves nothing.
Seeking approval is a waste of your time and energy. It will only bring you suffering.
It’s not about whether others approve of you but if you approve of you.
This is what counts.
Being popular with the world at the expense of your soul is a true booby prize.
How people perceive you reveals more about them than it does about you. People will perceive you based on their own conditioning and filters. So don’t take it personally.
We sometimes hold back being fully ourselves or stepping out and living our purpose in a big way because of the fear of being judged and what people will think or say.
Here’s the deal: When you put yourself out there in the world and dare to follow your dreams, it is a risk. It is a vulnerable and courageous act.
People will judge you.
People will talk about you.
People will project their stuff onto you.
It is what it is.
In fact, some people won’t like you. And they don’t even know you. This is unavoidable. Make peace with this up front.
Do not give those who don’t even know you the power to determine your happiness.
Do not give even those who know you the power to determine who you should be and what your limits are.
Know who you are.
As you accept yourself as you are and as you are not, you become powerful. You consolidate your energy and remain rooted in your center. You become free.
When you no longer seek other people’s approval, you are free. As you unhook yourself from other people’s validation, you become truly powerful.
Your soul is already SELF-validated.
You can please some of the people some of the time, but you can’t please all the people all of the time. In fact, there will be those who, no matter what you do, will think negatively and never be satisfied. This has nothing to do with you.
Jesus. Bruce Lee. Gandhi. Bob Marley. Martin Luther King Jr. They all had people who didn’t like them.
Remember that there really are no enemies. Just those who don’t know you yet and neither themselves.
At the end of the day, you are the one who has to live with yourself.
Even if you do get others’ approval, if it’s at the expense of yourself, it won’t be truly satisfying.
Trying to get people’s approval is a form of control. But in doing so, you are the one who ends up controlled.
The energy it takes is not worth it, as it often requires you give up a part of yourself in order to get the approval.
As I often say, if everyone likes you, you might want to be concerned. When you follow your heart, you will make waves in this world.
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You will stand out.
You will upset some people.
You will create change.
Life is a daring adventure to be lived with no regrets.
It takes true boldness to be yourself fully.
People have the right to think whatever they want to think about you.
Let that be their business.
So what do you think about you?
What other people think about you is none of your business!
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Kute Blackson is a life coach and speaker. Unlike those who promise to simply help people “get” what they want, Kute’s work instead reveals to people what they have to give, by liberating who they are most truly and deeply. The focus: Freedom. For more on Kute, please visit his website and follow him on Twitter.
*Image courtesy of jessleecuizon.October 27, 2013