Most people dream of having fulfilling relationships and being surrounded by like minded and loving people, which is an awesome vision for anyone’s life. I firmly believe this can become a reality for any of us, even when we don’t experience that in our lives today.
When I speak about “partner” I am not necessarily talking only about the partner in your romantic relationship but also our partner in business, in friendships and any other relationships that you are involved in.
I always made friends pretty easily and had lots of amazing and fun loving relationships. However, I have also had heartbreak in previous relationships which have ended in painful breakups and divorces.
In fact my husband and I only two short years ago, really went through a rocky patch that was emotionally draining, frightening and involved a lot of tears. But we worked it out and I am so happy that we managed to do that.
That experience brought out a lot of lessons for him and myself.
Additionally the nature of my business, where it is all about people, people and people…relationships are crucial for success. In fact I believe no matter what our career or life path, understanding relationships is the most important part of anyone’s life.
So, I want to share with you a few tips on how to build fulfilling relationships with your partners, your spouses, your parents, your kids, your neighbors, your friends and everyone else who you are a “partner” with in a relationship.
When we do this work and become that trusted partner, we will find that not only will our existing relationships change for the better but we will start attracting similar fulfilling relationships into our life…it’s as if magic starts to happen.
So here are some tips for you, that will help you become a trusted partner and start attracting more amazing and loving people into your life:
Listen – This is an area where so many of us get it wrong. Listening means allowing others to express their opinion, views and complaints without being interrupted. One of the best pieces of advice I ever received was when I learned that I should look deeply into another eyes while they talk, feel their energy, listen intently to each word and allow myself to feel their emotions. It is extremely powerful when we listen properly, as opposed to just waiting for a gap in their speech so we can answer. Try this approach you will love it.
Support – We all need strong support systems and I have spoken about this before. Here I focus on being there as a support system in a positive, uplifting way. Being a trusted partner who supports your friend or lover doesn’t mean that we sit there with a cup of coffee in hand, joining in the pity party and gossiping about others. It means we are there to catch them when they fall, lift them up when they need it and also to be there to kick them in the rear when they need it…that is the fun part!
Encourage – Don’t be afraid to nudge your partner forwards so they know that they are worthy, awesome and have greatness within them. Encourage them to be the best they can and help them take bold steps towards their dreams as often as possible.
Truth – There comes a time when we all need to hear the truth, no matter how uncomfortable. Be the person that your partner can always rely on to be truthful with them. Be the person they can come to when they need to hear the truth about themselves or their choices. It is not always easy, but the problem is we don’t do that enough as we are afraid to hurt peoples feelings. Remember this aspect of a relationship is coming from a loving place, not a judgmental and negative space.
Communicate – Ahh, don’t we all love this one? The art of communication! This is where so many of us fail right? The truth is when we do the above, that is all communication and will help us. Communication isn’t just about putting your opinion across or the need to be right. Rather, it is about keeping the dialogue going, being there, inspiring, helping your partner laugh, smile, encouraging, providing feedback and generally stimulating them mentally and emotionally so they want to communicate more with you.
Work at it – Having loving relationships requires work. We have to work at these relationships every single day. The best place to start the work is on ourselves. We have to work on our own skills and not just wait around for others to become more reliable partners. We focus on ourselves first. As you will see this requires energy…in fact a lot of energy from ourselves, but it is so worth it, especially when the result is ending up surrounded by loving relationships with people from all walks of life.
Growth – When we don’t grow we stagnate and that is the same for relationships. If we don’t feed them, love them and nurture them, then they start to slowly die off until they are gone. Again, it doesn’t matter what the other person does or doesn’t do, all we can do is focus on ourselves and our own input. Try to ensure that you are the one who stimulates and helps nurture your relationships into powerful loving relationships.
So let me ask you…Are you ready to become the Trusted Partner in your relationships? @hayleyhobson (Click to Tweet!)
I know it takes energy and work, but what we put in we get back ten fold. I encourage you to give it a try.
Hayley Hobson is an author, speaker, Kick-A$$ Business Guru, 7 Figure MOM-treprenuer. and passionate about empowering others to live the life of their dreams and is based in Boulder, CO. Hayley creates lifestyle transformations by coaching her clients to become the best WHOLE version of themselves possible. To learn more about her nutritional courses, events, and custom programs, visit hayleyhobson.com or follow her on Facebook or Twitter.