I’ve been in a number of situations where I kept saying, “It’s going to work out, it’s going to work out,” and, it didn’t even come close. I thought it was my deep abiding cosmic faith that kept me hanging in when things were clearly failing, but it was really just a case of slightly gross, awfully sticky, and obviously doomed wishful thinking.
We want what we want. So we ignore the evidence that we’re very likely not going to get what we want out of a situation.
Craving… wishing. Craving… denial. Craving… tolerating. It’s a wishous cycle.
You become excessively tolerant or overly pleasing. And all the while, anxiety about getting what you want is rumbling in your stomach. In a mindful moment you may ask yourself, “Why am I putting up with this sh-t?!” And then, in all seriousness you’ll tell yourself that it’s a means to an end.
Danielle LaPorte is the creator of The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul — the book that turned into a day planner system, a top iTunes app, and an international workshop program. A Desire Map workshop happens every weekend somewhere in the world. Author of The Fire Starter Sessions and the wildly popular #Truthbomb series, Danielle is also the co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan and co-host of the Beautiful Writer’s Group podcast.
Entrepreneur Magazine calls her “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” A speaker, poet, former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, she writes weekly at DanielleLaPorte.com, where over four million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice — a site that’s been deemed “the best place online for kick-ass spirituality,” and was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes. The Huffington Post named her Twitter feed as one of the “12 of Wisest Twitter Accounts Worth Following.” You can find her @daniellelaporte just about everywhere.
But really… it’s because you’re afraid of the consequences of putting an end to putting up with it. Examine the evidence. And as for wishing… wish for the strength to do the right thing.