Acceptance is the root and the foundation of many wisdom traditions, including Buddhist compassion teachings, the Law of Least Effort, and Christ Consciousness. But regardless of your orientation to these belief systems, you can find powerful, personal evolution by awakening the Sacred Power of Acceptance in your life.
Three Levels of Acceptance
There are three core levels of acceptance, and we instantly shift every aspect of our being by:
Level one: Accepting that this moment is perfect, pure, whole. Every moment that has led to this moment was exactly the way it was meant to be. Imagine … this moment is the magnificent culmination of all of your life choices—every experience that has woven itself in, around, and through you—and every one of the 31 million seconds that have ticked by in just this year alone! It couldn’t be any other way.
Level two: Accepting that you are a divine being who is sealed in this human body for the span of a lifetime and that you have made choices and decisions throughout your life from your highest level of consciousness at the time. Even though there are choices you may regret or torture yourself about, they are carved in stone and we must accept them, forgive ourselves, and make better choices in the future.
Level three: Accepting others for who they are—not as we wish they would be. Allowing people’s differences, quirks, unique vibrations to just be and not necessarily fit into our box of how the world is supposed to be.
When you awaken The Sacred Power of Acceptance, you finally recognize that wherever you are, every moment of the past is carved in stone and for you to evolve your life, improve your situation, or find deeper fulfillment you must own the present moment.
Level Two is where so many of us get stuck. By nature, we are our own toughest critic; and we know all the moments where we felt less-than, or were sloppy, lazy, or casual with our decisions. We know those times when we were unsure of which road to take and we guessed “wrong.” We know where we could have been better, or stronger, or wiser, or more patient, or more truthful, or more engaged. But in that moment, we didn’t have access to a crystal ball of consequences; or maybe we didn’t take the time to really explore the depth of our actions or choices.
So right now we have two very clear ways to live life. We can either:
- Beat ourselves up for not being clairvoyant and diminish the happiness in our lives by pointing a continuous finger of blame at ourselves; OR
- Accept the past as a lesson so that we can make better choices and find deeper fulfillment in life.
The Blame Game
So often, we hold ourselves accountable for all the pitfalls and unhappiness in our lives and we point to some decision we made that was the root of it all. But this is unnecessary and harsh. And building up the blame case has no value except in a courtroom. In the real world, where a judge or jury of our choices doesn’t exist, attributing blame only gets in the way of making the best decision in this moment. Especially self-blame because that is also self-defeating. It takes the wind out of our sails and that doesn’t help us in any way.
In business, in history, in politics, in sports … where the stakes are so high, the ability to step beyond the moment of blame and accept our individual mis-steps, mis-stakes, mis-speaks separates the winners from the losers. The ability to accept the fact that we did our best from our own level of consciousness at the time, separates those willing to step out of the past (which is the stale, the old, the stuck) and into the present (which is rich, fresh, and filled with infinite opportunities). Those mired in self-pity or finger-pointing are trapped in the past and destined to stay there because they will not accept what is carved in stone. They remain paralyzed in self-finger-pointing mode and that becomes their excuse for why they are unfulfilled. While those who have owned and accepted their decisions are able to move forward and make new, proud, exciting, restorative choices. We can keep complaining about the rain, or accept that it’s raining and find an umbrella.
We get to choose. We are choice-making beings. No one can ever take that away from us—not even ourselves. We just need a little reminder now and then.
When you resist, you block the natural flow of the Universe. It’s like crossing your arms just as someone is about to hug you. Picture that in your mind’s eye right now. On the other hand, acceptance is not simply un-crossing your arms, but rather it’s the proactive invitation for something new to come into you.
Acceptance is the moment that you give yourself permission to truly own every aspect of your existence, merging with every single moment that has led up to this moment. @davidji_com (Click to Tweet!)
The great author, teacher, publisher, and champion of emotional-healing, Louise Hay, who popularized the concept of affirmations was quoted many times as saying, “All is well.” Read more about the Sacred Powers that rest within us all in my new book Sacred Powers: The Five Secrets to Transformation available at all major online retailers in the US, Canada, Europe and Australia.
davidji is a globally recognized mindbody health & wellness expert, mindful performance trainer, meditation teacher & author of Amazon’s Best Seller destressifying: The Real-World Guide to Personal Empowerment, Lasting Fulfillment, and Peace of Mind, Sacred Powers: The Five Secrets to Transformation and Secrets of Meditation: A Practical Guide to Inner Peace & Personal Transformation, & winner of the Nautilus Book Award. Connect with him on . davidji.com Facebook, YouTube and Twitter.
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