Manifesting true love is an art, a science, and a skill that most people need to acquire before the magic happens.

Unless you are a master manifestor, just sitting on your couch waiting for the “one” to knock on your door is not going to work.

The Law of Attraction states that we draw to us the people and experiences that match our state of being.

In other words, if we are feeling good about ourselves and our life and trusting that good things are happening, often the outer world will match our inner world. If we are living in fear, anxiety, wanting, doubt, or other negative emotions, chances are we just pull in more of that.

I believe that meeting your soulmate has a certain amount of meant-to-be-ness to it, AND it requires a big dose of make-it-happen-ness.

It’s a combination of the two that is the winning ticket.

So, the very first step of manifesting love is about getting to belief.

Do you believe you deserve love?

If your heart desires love, then that is enough for me to be one hundred percent certain that you do deserve love!

But, if you said no, you don’t believe you deserve love, then I want to ask you:

It’s true! 

There are MANY possible soulmates for all of us.

Right now there are more than seven billion people alive on the planet.

More than half of them are single.

You only need one.

Statistically the odds are in your favor!

Step #2 is all about forgiveness.

We must forgive ourselves for all the mistakes we have made in past relationships and then forgive the ones we are judging as “having done us wrong.” This is a key step. Don’t skip it.

As Anne Lamott said in Traveling Mercies, Not forgiving is like drinking rat poison and then waiting for the rat to die.”

Step #3 is getting clarity.

What are the heart traits and qualities you most desire in your soulmate?

What does your life together feel like? Look like?

Every great relationship is a combination of great communication, chemistry, compatibility, and a shared vision for the future. Spend the time to figure out what qualities your soulmate will possess to enhance your long-term happiness.

Step #4 is about practicing intention, surrender, focus, and detachment coupled with trust, belief, knowing-ness, and patience

This is the recipe for success.

And I realize this is a paradox.

How does one be both intentional and surrendered?

When I am being intentional, I have a clear feeling and picture of what my desire is, AND I am also detached from the outcome.

I know and trust that life will continue to be great whether or not my desire is fulfilled.

I surrender to divine timing and to destiny (knowing this or something better is on the way) and my happiness and wellbeing isn’t dependent on having my wishes granted.

This is a daily “conscious” practice that requires emotional maturity and awareness.

It’s worth the effort to master this practice as it will give you freedom to be “with what is” while manifesting your deepest desires.

These are some of the most basic steps to manifesting a soulmate.

For those who are willing to commit some extra time and energy into the process, I am excited to announce a FREE online eight-day series I am hosting called Attract Your Soulmate Now! that features over forty-five top relationship experts including Harville Hendrix, John Gray, don Miguel Ruiz, Gay Hendricks, Alison Armstrong, Neale Donald Walsch, Debbie Ford, Bruce Lipton, Colette Baron Reid, Marci Shimoff, Cherie Carter Scott, Katherine Woodward Thomas, Nick Ortner, Evan Marc Katz, and many more!

Each Soulmate expert holds a critical key that will help you attract and create the kind of connection your heart yearns for.

To make 2012 the year you find your soulmate, I encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity right now and register for the event today.

Arielle Ford is a gifted writer and the author of eight books including her latest Wabi Sabi Love: The Ancient Art of Finding Perfect Love in Imperfect Relationships and the international bestseller, THE SOULMATE SECRET: Manifest The Love of Your Life With The Law of Attraction. She lives in La Jolla, CA with her husband/soulmate, Brian Hilliard and their feline friends.

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