There is a saying: “It is not who you are that holds you back, it is who you think you are not.”

Do you know what you are capable of? Most people have no idea and never genuinely try to discover their true potential. What continues to hold you back? Is it fear of success or failure? Is it fear of the responsibility it may require? Or the risks you may have to take in order to get there?

Does it seem easier to quit rather than persevere?

But you dream don’t you? I do. And I believe our dreams can become a reality.

There was a time in my life where my belief system was limited. I didn’t think I deserved to author the book called My Life. I watched it go by on a movie screen. I couldn’t recognize the characters.

Sound familiar?

If so, as my three year old says, “It’s wake-up time!” The sun is shining. Are you ready to go? Let’s get personal.

Take a look at your life. What is affecting the quality? What deep needs of yours are not being affected? Is it time to have a one-on-one session with yourself and answer some questions?

  • How do the problems or hurdles in your life impact the overall quality of your life?
  • Which of your deepest needs are being impacted because of these problems?
  • What would happen if nothing changed?
  • What would be the cost to you or those around you?
  • What are the implications if you stay stuck?


Are you still breathing? Yes. Of course you are. So that’s one step in the right direction.

Now, let’s get honest. Is that story you were telling yourself even true or has it been holding you captive all of this time? It’s easy to get sucked into the belief that you are your story.

Step away. Take a look. Couldn’t that story change? Of course it can! You are the author!

Now, don’t get angry with yourself. Remember, there is no one to blame. It’s just time for the next scene to take place.

Here we go:

Have a Sense of Direction and Purpose

What do you want and why? Are your efforts worth the investment of time, finances, and emotional energy? I knew mine were. I didn’t like my character anymore. She was stuck. She was BORING! It was definitely time to move on, and the investment of my time and energy was of no consequence.

Know What You Value in Life.

What you value should be of utmost importance to you. If you align yourself, relationships, friends, and career with our values, you will always be living in truth.

Get Organized

Oftentimes, the hardest part about moving forward is getting organized. There is SO much to do; it’s easy to feel scattered. Don’t stress. One step at a time. One day at a time. Come up with a plan. Write it down. Stick to it.

Take Action

I knew I was ready to take action because I felt suffocated. There was no other option. It was time for me to take a deep breath and open the new door to my life. It was time to come alive again. Don’t let your excuses hold you back. If you’re ready to participate in you’re life, let’s go.

I have given you some great insight into overcoming what holds you back. I’d love to hear from you. What do you think holds you back? What would it take for you to take action and make what you want a reality? Please leave your comments below.

XO, Hayley

Hayley Hobson is an author, speaker, business coach, yogi, Pilates instructor, and holistic nutritional expert based in Boulder, CO. Her unique and intelligent style promotes strengthening while softening—empowering her clients to heal not only their physical bodies but their hearts and minds as well. To learn more about her nutritional courses, events, and custom programs, visit or follow her on Facebook or Twitter.