Tonight when I came out of the grocery store, I couldn’t help but gaze up and look at the sky. The sun was just beginning to set, leaving behind perfectly placed trails of purple and pink. As I stopped walking to breathe in the moment, I could feel a very familiar feeling that I hadn’t felt for so long. I gently closed my eyes with the next breath and felt like I was going to lose myself in the moment. I took another deep breath, trying to figure out where I had felt this feeling, and my eyes filled up with tears.
This familiar feeling was the same feeling I would have when my dad would hug me hello.
I took another deep breath and noticed tears rolling down my cheeks. Memories came back to me about the weeks after my Dad’s passing. I remember questioning everything in my life.
One thing I questioned was the purpose in loving when the pain in loss was so intensely deep. I remember sitting on the beach one day, feeling like I had a choice to make. I could choose to close my Heart down and be angry and withdrawn because the pain of loss was too great, or I could choose to courageously keep moving forward with an open and gentle Heart. I wanted to choose the latter, but I didn’t know how, so I closed my eyes and asked for insight to guide me.
After that afternoon, I came to understand that everything in life changes. Change is something that can be expected because it is simply the nature of life. To pretend and hope for things not to change was simply going to be a recipe for tremendous upset, sadness, and disappointment. To desire something I couldn’t change would only lead to depression, resentment, and anger. I had to become clear of the experience that I wanted to create for myself as I lived this life, but I seemed to keep getting stuck on the issue of how to love if I knew I would somehow lose it or have it taken away. It just seemed like a lame experience.
I closed my eyes and breathed deeply again, asking for guidance and insight. This is part of the insight that was shared, and I wanted to share it with you:
Love can never be taken away. Nothing in life can happen to take away love because everything that happens in our lives is happening to support and embrace us. Instead of wishing for things to be different, choose to focus on Gratitude in the moment. Making a simple choice to focus on Gratitude will create acceptance over time. When we feel acceptance, we will experience the feeling of peace and love.
Every moment is a gift. When we experience the feeling of loss, we are reminded of what it is that we have gained by the experiences of that person. Always do your best to focus on the gifts that were given to you in the time you were able to spend with people.
We have fear that without that person we have lost, we will not have the love that we had shared. It simply isn’t true. Love is not something that can be taken away. Love is something that can be experienced at any moment of any day.
Feeling love is a choice that we can easily make if we want.
We can feel love in a moment, or we can feel fear. If it isn’t loving, it is often fearful. Pay attention the next time you are feeling something other than love. Ask yourself if there is something that you are afraid of. Listen for the answers.
If you want to feel loved, practice patience instead of acting in haste. Taking slow deep breaths will help relax your body. When your body is less stressed, it relaxes your Heart. When your Heart relaxes, love will begin to ooze out.
If you want to feel loved, choose to act in kindness. If you want to feel loved and can’t be kind, practice silence instead. Do your best to remember that the moment before you is powerful and the moment will never return. Unkind words spoken can never be taken back.
If you want to feel loved, do loving things for others and for yourself. Ask yourself a simple question in the morning: “What loving thing can I do for myself or another today?”
If you want to feel loved, make sure the thoughts you are focusing on are making you feel good about yourself and others. If your thoughts are full of anger, resentment, jealousy, and regret, take a deep breath and reset your focus. Remember that your mind is based on habit and you are capable of choosing where you put your focus. Your mind is on autopilot. You, however, are not. Be conscious of what you are choosing to focus on if you want to feel loved.
Lastly, if you want to feel loved, spend some time in nature. Take time to slow down, breathe, and surround yourself with the beauty of nature. You will notice your Heart open, and love and gratitude will be experienced as you do this. Nature gives without expecting anything in return.
In every moment, there is an opportunity to love and to feel loved. Do your best to remind yourself and others of this whenever possible.
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Soft kisses to each and every one of your Hearts. May you feel incredibly loved today.
Robin Lee is a medical intuitive, author, mentor, gratitude advocate, and speaker who has helped thousands of people around the world understand the language of their bodies. Robin believes that our bodies innately know how to balance and heal themselves if given proper care and support. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter, where she shares tips, tools, and techniques to honor our bodies and heal our lives!
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