“ABSOLUTELY NOTHING!!!” is the answer to that question.
I unequivocally assure you that there is nothing wrong with you.
Even if you feel stuck. Even if you cannot figure out what you want to do with your life or hate your job. Even if you snapped at your spouse or child this morning. Even if you are ten pounds heavier than you want. Even if you are single and long for a partner. Even if you had a terrible childhood. Even if you have debt. Even if you have been labeled with a diagnosis.
There is not a single reason in the entire universe that anything could possibly be wrong with you so please STOP LOOKING FOR ONE!
I received the call to remind you of this from Robert Holden who I recently heard speak. Robert is a Ph.D, best selling Hay House author, and the Director of The Happiness Project and Success Intelligence.
In his speech, Robert shared that as a psychologist he only felt slightly effective when he was seeking a diagnosis for people he was treating. His practice and purpose shifted when he stopped looking for “problems” and started seeing people, and helping them see themselves, for who they truly are: whole and unbroken.
He honored their stories and offered tools for relating to them because we all have life experiences we go through. However, he did not make their stories mean anything about them or taint the essence of who they were. Robert called us all forward to remember who we are so that we can remind others.
We do this by forgiving ourselves for any judgments that perpetuate the misunderstanding that we are flawed in some way. We must stop looking at ourselves as improvement projects – consistently looking for the next quick-fix or upgrade.
When you were born you were totally aware that there is absolutely nothing wrong with you.
And then you got older.
And things happened.
And you started to forget the Truth.
You started moving out of the awareness of love and into fear, doubt, and judgment (read more about how this here).
When we forget who we are we experience the myth of inadequacy and the plague of not-enoughness. Your true self is waiting on your recognition and acceptance. Do not deny it any longer.
I invite you to ask yourself these questions: “What is it like to be you when you are not judging yourself? When you are not criticizing yourself? When you are not trying to make yourself into anything?”
Change your mind about yourself rather than continuing to attempt to change yourself.
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Much love and remember. . .
You are absolutely precious and beautiful – THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH YOU!!
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Christine Hassler is a Life Coach with a counseling emphasis known for catalyzing radical self-reflection while offering practical direction. She is passionate about busting the myth that life is about living by a checklist and having it all figured out. In 2005, she wrote the first guidebook written exclusively for young women, entitled 20 Something 20 Everything. Christine’s second book, The 20 Something Manifesto written for men and women stems from her experience coaching twenty-something’s. Her third book: Expectation Hangover: Overcoming Disappointment in Work, Love and Life comes out in October 2014 and is written for readers of all ages. Christine has appeared as an expert on The Today Show, CNN, ABC, CBS, FOX, E!, Style and PBS, is a frequent contributor to The Huffington Post and Cosmo. As a Gen Y Expert, and is a spokesperson for American Express and the key resource for their women’s and millennial advocacy programs. You can find more info on her website, and follow her on Twitter and FB.