Dear Positively Positive tribe, I received this beautiful letter and felt I had to share it. The work I do is largely populated by roomfuls of women, but, on occasion, there are men. To me, there is nothing sexier or more beautiful than a man who lets himself be open and vulnerable. I share this fact with my husband all the time. My workshop is called The Manifestation Workshop: On Being Human.

So you see, men are wanted. Women are wanted. Humans wanted (and needed.) No specificity. Just humans.

I led one in South Dakota (I do them all over) last month and David came. This is what he had to say:


I was in Santa Monica last April visiting some friends and thought I’d try yoga.

Jen instructed the 2nd class I ever attended (I had no idea how big of a deal she is-I was pretty lucky). I struggled through class but loved it. Afterward I thanked her for being patient with a rookie from South Dakota. She laughed and invited me to her workshop in Sioux Falls, SD in September. ‘See you there!’ I said, having no idea what a workshop was, but struck mainly by her enthusiasm and energy.

Months later, I learned that 1-Jen is a legend in the yoga world, and 2- her “yoga workshops” involve journaling and talking about feelings.

I like to play sports, climb mountains, shoot trap, fly fish, and look for sweet deals on shotgun shells to shoot trap with. So I don’t have a journal, and I will listen to anyone talk about their feelings but don’t do much with mine. Skeptical about attending, I thought Jen would forget and I could stay in my comfort zone.

More months later, Jen remembered, and wrote on my Facebook timeline where, when, and that I should bring a journal.

Like an absolute goofball, I messaged her – ‘what is class like? I don’t journal much. I’m not sure if this is for me.’ She got down to brass tacks and told me it’s about getting out of my comfort zone.

For 3 hours that night I could be found 100 miles from my nearest comfort zone-45 female yoga pros and the lone male in his late 20s.

It was totally necessary and entirely enlightening. I could end up being pretty damn boring if I’m focused only on being a resident the next 5 or 6 years. I could miss the moments in life to smile, to make somebody smile, and to be fully human.

I could neglect current relationships and not make new ones.

But for 3 hours Jen led and taught me how to prevent that with introspection and a consistent sense of wonder. Jen has that light which lets you know she’s fully human. It is evident that she feels more intensely, more keenly, more loudly. She’s sharing that with the world-the boys just need to show up with an open mind.

And yes . . . a journal!” ~ David in South Dakota.


So, what is not just for the ladies? I will tell you:

  1. Yoga
  2. Truth telling
  3. Connection
  4. Sharing your story
  5. Vulnerability
  6. Emotion
  7. Beauty hunting
  8. Dancing
  9. Getting out of your comfort zone
  10. Crying
  11. Saying how you feel
  12. Being human

Here’s to us all being human. Man or woman. @JenPastiloff (Click to Tweet!)

Thanks, David! You touched me deeply and I love you. You are amazing.

I look forward to more men who dare to be so open and vulnerable. (Take this as a personal challenge from me.)

See you all in Dallas Nov 1, Miami Nov 8 and Vancouver Jan 17th. My summer Italy retreat is almost full so please book soon. Also, if you want to write, I am doing a writing retreat in Mexico in May, and it does not matter one bit if you think you are “good”!  xo jen

Jen will be leading a New Year’s Manifestation Retreat: On Being Human in Ojai, California. All retreats are a combo of yoga/writing and for ALL levels. Read this post to understand. Check out for all retreat listings and workshops to attend one in a city near you (Dallas, Miami, South  Vancouver, NYC & London are next). Jen is the guest speaker 3 times a year at Canyon Ranch and leads an annual retreat to Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health every February, as well as an annual invite only retreat to Tuscany. She is the founder of the popular The Manifest-Station website. Jen is leading Other Voices Querétaro in Mexico with authors Gina Frangello, Emily Rapp, Stacy Berlein, and Rob Roberge in May . Follow her on Instagram and Twitter. You can also find her at 

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