Since I revealed I’m pregnant I’ve gotten a bunch of emails and comments saying this like this, “I know how long you’ve been trying for a baby. I know how badly you wanted this, etc.”
These things people say to me are assumptions.
I couldn’t have been more vocal about my ambivalence towards having kids. How I wasn’t sure but I didn’t think I would. I made a Don’t Be An A-hole video a few months back that went viral about not assuming every woman wanted children (or could have them.)
I am very happy NOW that my baby is on its way but this was not planned.
This wasn’t something I’d been working towards.
I didn’t think I wanted this!! That’s not so popular to say (especially while pregnant) but that’s okay – I like stirring the pot, as you know if you follow me, and besides.. I WANT IT NOW. That’s all that matters.
Someone said to me last year that I needed to hurry and have a baby because time wasn’t on my side and that you couldn’t have a meaningful life without children. (It was a man!) I have never been so angry. That is simply untrue and ridiculous.
Kids or no kids … You are enough! This is one of the core tenets of my feminist empowerment movement called Girl Power: You Are Enough.
Also, isn’t it interesting the narrative we place upon women? Like everyone just ASSUMED I was trying for this and wanted it more than anything.
It’s an old mentality – the idea that every woman wants a baby.
Don’t place your story on anyone else. @JenPastiloff (Click to Tweet!)
Love you guys. Post thoughts below. See you soon at a workshop or my New Years retreat. Hurry before I have this kid. 🙂 xooxx
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Their mission statement:
Cut the Label ®™ is a movement born out of the desire to end the categorizing of Humans. We are not first LGBT, Buddhist, Catholic, French, Spanish, an Addiction, a Disease, a Diagnosis, Formally Educated-Not, Republican-Not, Rich-Not. If you can be my friend then I can be yours based on what makes you a YOU. Join the movement. Stop labeling.
My Italy retreat for next Sep is invite only so email me at email@example.com! I will be in Tampa and Vancouver in January. Make sure to give me a hug if you come. All workshops here. Also, my New Year’s Retreat in Ojai, Calif is almost sold out so book now here! I will be back at Kripalu in Feb, too. Join me on instagram at @jenpastiloff and @GirlPowerYouAreEnough. xoxo
Jen leads retreats that are a combo of yoga/writing and for ALL levels. Read this post to understand. Click here for all retreat listings and workshops to attend one in a city near you (Atlanta, NYC, St. Louis, London, Chicago & more, are next). Jen is the guest speaker 3 times a year at Canyon Ranch and leads an annual retreat to Kripalu Center for Yoga & Health every February, as well as an annual invite only retreat to Tuscany. She is the founder of the popular The Manifest-Station website. Follow her on Instagram and Twitter. She is the founder of Girl Power: You Are Enough.