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I was in a spiritual tizzy — that’s an esoteric term for 80% emotions-running-wild, and 20% having faith that everything will work out. I can’t remember what it was over (probably divorce papers, or a publishing contract, or buying a house. But it involved documents and beaucoup emotion.)

I sent a group text to my closest closies to the effect of: “Sisters (and you one mister). I’m on the verge of nuts but awesome. Can you, for real, send prayers up for me this weekend? A meditation. A candle lit on your altar. Whatever feels right. Anything.” I let them know what I was praying for, and then I sent a sweet but obnoxious chain of individual “Thank you” “Thank you” “Thank you” texts. One at a time. For affect.

With IMMEDIATE enthusiasm, every friend texted back to say, Done! Doing it! Holding you in the Light! I love you! You got this!

And one friend sent me a photo of the candle she lit and the sacred object she placed on her altar for me. And she said something that made me stop and inhale the heat of my soft tears:

It’s an honour to help you.

Stopped me.

It’s an honour to help you.

Melted me.

It’s an honour to help you.

Had never occurred to me.

This declaration made poetry out of what I knew to be true: that most people want to help out, but more than that, they cherish the opportunity.

We all have a deep need to be helpful, it’s how the Soul gets its exercise. @DanielleLaPorte (Click to Tweet!)

It strengthens your heart, and it can be incredibly intimate. And when you really really love someone for who they are, it’s an honour to help them.

So please remember this when YOU need help. When you need someone to babysit so you can sit in a cafe and plan for your wildness to return. When you want someone to talk it through with you (but they’re mostly listening). When you hope someone will be your sacred yes and the one degree of separation you need to opportunity.

When you need back-up on your divine petitions, give someone the honour of lending you their faith.


Danielle LaPorte is the creator of The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul — the book that turned into a day planner system, a top iTunes app, and an international workshop program. A Desire Map workshop happens every weekend somewhere in the world. Author of The Fire Starter Sessions and the wildly popular #Truthbomb series, Danielle is also the co-creator of Your Big Beautiful Book Plan and co-host of the Beautiful Writer’s Group podcast.

Entrepreneur Magazine calls her “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” A speaker, poet, former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, she writes weekly at DanielleLaPorte.com, where over four million visitors have gone for her straight-up advice — a site that’s been deemed “the best place online for kick-ass spirituality,” and was named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes. The Huffington Post named her Twitter feed as one of the “12 of Wisest Twitter Accounts Worth Following.” You can find her @daniellelaporte just about everywhere.