Sometimes we don’t realize our own power and the influence we have on others…or perhaps don’t fully appreciate how big our influence can be on others.

We have a bigger impact on those around us than we realize, and I refer to both people we know and the strangers that cross our paths.

The way we project our energy, consciously and unconsciously is super important for us to grasp and understand if we want life to work for us, rather than against us.

We are normally aware of this when someone comes busting into our little life bubble and they just seem to exude this negative energy. You can literally feel it.

And let’s be honest we are aware to some extent how we can go home in a bad mood sometimes and take it out on our partners and kids…especially when we have a case of the grumps right?

Well, I have been thinking about this, listening and observing and I really now see that most of us don’t actually realize how powerful we are with our own energy.

You see when we come across somebody that is grumpy, we know that their energy and attitude can irritate or annoy us. It’s not always fun when being on the receiving end. But the truth is, that negative energy doesn’t just stop with us if we’re not aware.

What I mean by that is we can actually take on that person’s energy, when we react to their negativity. The result is that we leave that encounter feeling varying degrees of being annoyed, frustrated, angry and sometimes hurt.

When we feel that way, what do you think happens? We exude that onto others. Again this can happen consciously and unconsciously, so we’re not even aware of it and it is through no fault of our own either.

That then impacts the person on the receiving end of our negative energy and in turn they can pass it on. It is like a ripple effect. Of course the opposite is true too. We can radiate positive energy and have the same impact.

A little while ago, I was running around at a hundred miles an hour as I had a lot to do and had a couple of trips coming up. I was trying to balance being a Mom, running the house, planning the trip, running my company and getting my packing done.

And I also had a few meetings planned with my team which I usually do online. I thought I was being super productive and getting stuff done. I was trying to catch up and get everything done on time. The truth was, that I thought I was in control and all was well, but in fact, that was not true.

I was actually radiating a nervous and anxious energy, again this is something happening unconsciously and it happens to millions of people every day. This was not my intention, but just the workload and trying to do everything ended up impacting my team.

I was actually overwhelming them with my energy. I wasn’t even aware of it and the impact I had on them, until one of them who is a close friend, called me up and said. “Hey, I know this is a busy time but I have never seen you like this…”

So just like that I suddenly became aware and caught myself. I had been impacting a group of people and I wasn’t even aware.

I decided to get myself to the next Yoga class and re-center my thoughts and mind. The shift was immediate. I was then able to call back the team and apologize for my craziness. The cool thing is that we all learned something and realized that we are all like that at times, but being surrounded by like-minded people certainly helps.

Here’s some tips for you, so you can be sure that you radiate a positive vibe that has a positive affect on others around you:

Trust – most of our negative energy starts to build sub-consciously when we don’t fully trust what is happening in our lives. When we don’t trust life, we try to control everything and everyone. That just builds more and more internal conflict. We need to stop the negative energy at it’s source.

Awareness – we have to train ourselves to become aware. Become aware of your feelings as they tell you the quality of your thoughts, both conscious and sub-conscious thoughts. When you feel that shift internally, stop and make the change to the thought pattern which will bring about the feeling you want.

Support systems – surround yourself with inspiring, loving and like-minded individuals that are not scared to call you out and don’t get sensitive when you call them out. We’re in this journey together and so having a team is powerful for you and those who are part of your support system.

Panic vs Motivation – it is awesome to be motivated to get stuff done and all that stuff but here’s the thing…Quite often Panic comes along in the disguise of motivation. It sneaks up on us and wants us to get stuff done and get it done now, otherwise, we’ll miss out. But how do we know what is motivation and panic?

Well, go with the way you feel. Motivation is excitement or suspense like you cannot wait to see the upcoming reality you are creating. Panic is anxious, rushed, frustration and worry. You’ll feel the difference in your body.

Remember folks you have a huge influence on those around you and more. @hayleyhobson (Click to Tweet!)

You have incredible power to make a difference in other people lives each day and each moment. It is a like a ripple effect, so make sure it is a positive energy.


Hayley Hobson is an author, speaker, Kick-A$$ Business Guru, 7 Figure MOM-treprenuer. and passionate about empowering others to live the life of their dreams and is based in Boulder, CO. Hayley creates lifestyle transformations by coaching her clients to become the best WHOLE version of themselves possible. To learn more about her nutritional courses, events, and custom programs, visit or follow her on Facebook or Twitter.