Often the biggest obstacle to transformation is not changing what we believe about being able to change.
“Change and growth take place when a person has risked himself and dares to become involved with experimenting with his own life.” – Dr. Otto
Even though you may want to move forward in your life, you may have one foot on the brakes. In order to be free, we must learn how to let go. Release the hurt. Release the fear. Refuse to entertain your old pain. The energy it takes to hang onto the past is holding you back from a new life. What is it you would let go of today? – Mary Morrissey
WOW. I am still flying high from an incredible weekend facilitating Chrysalis. For the fifth year in a row, I was completely blown away by the women who came, the powerful work they did and the miracles they created. And once again I was shown that transformation is ALWAYS possible for everyone no matter what. Many women came in with deep hurts, traumas, fears, or belief systems that they thought they could never expose, heal or be free of. At the beginning of the workshop, some expressed doubt that they could ever let go of what was holding them back. They were not sure the internal change they were longing for was possible. Others did not want to be there and were hesitant about participating. But they surrendered to the process, trusted their inner guidance that got them there and went for it! Each one of them had a breakthrough and ended up surprising themselves (and each other).
My message to you today is that if you are longing for some kind of change in your life, KEEP GOING. No matter what has happened to you, transformation is possible.
Yes, even if there is something in your life that you think is so huge you can never break free of it, I promise that you can and you will. In all the years I have been doing this work, I’ve personally witnessed hundreds of people transform from the inside out. I believe 100% that we all can heal even our most challenging issues as long as we have a clear intention and are willing to go through a transformational process.
We cannot go around the things we want to be different inside of us by only looking externally at what we want next or mentally analyzing ourselves to death. We cannot keep repressing or avoiding things by focusing on something or someone else or numbing ourselves with addictions to food, drugs, work or any other distraction. So if you feel stuck or held back in anyway ask yourself if you truly believe it is possible to transform your life from the inside out. If your answer is no that is the main reason you feel stuck. If your answer is yes then take another small step today on your personal growth path. Reach out for support. You don’t have to do everything on your own! Find resources, programs, communities, coaches, or workshops to help guide your way. Set clear intentions and be willing to face your deepest fears in service to your freedom.
Remember, courage is not the absence of fear. It is allowing the fear to be there and moving forward anyway.
And transformation does not always occur in a moment, as growth is a process, not an event. Sometimes you may feel like you are taking steps backward, that does not mean change is not occurring. You may take 10 steps forward and then eight steps back. But as long as you stay committed to your own personal transformation the next time you will take 11 steps forward and only seven steps back. Whatever you do, just keep going. You will get to the other side.
Transformation could be just around the corner. I believe in you. I believe in transformation. Do you?
P.S. I have a new podcast where I coach people LIVE on the air. Head over to Over it and On With It and listen in for inspiration and action steps.
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