I recently learned a life-changing lesson about myself from a horse. Yes, a horse. His name is Rooster and he is one of the best teachers I have ever had.

Here’s what happened. I was blessed to spend a weekend at Miraval resort in Arizona and registered for an “Equine therapy” class. I was looking forward to the class given that I have always loved horses but did not expect anything hugely transformational. After all, I grew up in Texas and was around horses a lot so how surprising could this be?

I share the story about Rooster in great detail in my vlog – I encourage you to watch and learn through my experience as you just might see yourself in my story.


Do you buy into a misunderstanding that it is more “spiritual” not to care about outcomes?

Do you pretend not to care about things that you really do care about?

Do you show up in certain areas of your life and give off a vibe of being indifferent or apathetic?

Do you fake “being cool” with something when you are absolutely not?

Are there areas in your life that are “falling asleep” because you are scared to be really honest about how bad you want something?

My encouragement to you is to allow yourself to care. Play full out. Show up in all aspects of your life fully invested. Stop pretending that you are all evolved and not invested in physical world reality things. You are still in a human body, aren’t you?

Once I got this “aha,” I owned my truth, committed to my desire, and walked up to Rooster with determination and a very clear intention. Before I even had a chance to get the grip on his leg, he woke up, stood up straight and lifted his hoof right into my hand.

Things happen when we are invested in the outcome.

But here is the caveat: do NOT allow the outcome to determine your worth or value.

Go for what you want but if you do not get it or it does not turn out the way you desired, do not make it mean anything about you.

Do your best and then allow the Uni-verse to do the rest. @ChristinHassler (Click to Tweet!)

You may not always get what you want but at least you know that you showed up 100%.

With love,


P.S. I have a new podcast where I coach people LIVE on the air. Head over to Over it and On With It and listen in for inspiration and action steps.

Christine Hassler has broken down the complex and overwhelming experience of recovering from disappointment into a step-by-step treatment plan in her new book Expectation Hangover. This book reveals the formula for how to process disappointment on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels to immediately ease suffering. Instead of wallowing in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, we can see these experiences as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility. You can find more info on her website, and follow her on Twitter and FB.

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