- Have I ever Feng Shui’ed my house? The short answer: yes. The cliffhanger: no, not anymore.
- What brings back my energy when I’m in my darkest hour? (I take my own medicine.)
- Who are my celebrity crushes? Favourite movies? Favourite tea? In between swooning, I manage to break down some romance wisdom.
- Why don’t I talk about my parents? I do now.
- What’s my take on the narcissistic vs. empath dynamic? Oh darling…
- When did I know I “arrived”? (Still getting there.)
Thank you, thank you, thank you, for asking. Tune in for more from LIGHT WORK, Ep. #4 HERE.
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The Narcissist and the Empath
Featured in LIGHT WORK, Episode #4
“What’s your take on (and advice for) the narcissistic vs. empath dynamic? Have you had this experience? How did you recover?”
If you identify as holistically-inclined, spiritually-seeking, or sensitive… you have likely experienced the narcissist/empath dance. In some ways, a narcissist and a New Age’r (let’s just use that term for the sake of this conversation) with low self-esteem have a lot in common: they’re both trying to get approval from outside sources to fill the hole in their Soul. The narcissist will grind and grind, and the empath will give and give… until she just can’t give anymore. If the empath can cut those cords and leave that situation, she’ll finally see: “I was doing the best I could. I was loving and I was listening. And I was over-giving. I was over-tolerant.” She reaches this beautiful place where she realizes that she is enough.
And then the realization sets in that you don’t need to be someone else’s source of energy and clarity. You will no longer cry the tears that somebody needs to cry for themselves. You won’t be doing personal growth for somebody else anymore. You will feel what you are feeling, and put yourself at the center of your life again. Where you belong.
Listen to the rest of LIGHT WORK, Ep. #4 HERE.
Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” She is author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path—from one seeker to another. The Fire Starter Sessions, and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul—the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries.
Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, millions of visitors go to DanielleLaPorte.com every month for her daily #Truthbombs and what’s been called “the best place online for kickass spirituality.” A speaker, a poet, a painter, and a former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, Entrepreneur Magazine calls Danielle, “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” Her charities of choice are Eve Ensler’s VDay: a global movement to end violence against women and girls, and charity: water, setting out to bring safe drinking water to everyone in the world. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her favourite philosopher, her son. You can find her @daniellelaporte and just about everywhere on social media.