Take 100% responsibility for your life. That sounds quite empowering doesn’t it? But it also may sound rather challenging especially if you feel like you have been wronged or dealt a crappy hand of cards lately.
But the ONLY way to feel truly free in our life is to take 100% responsibility for our life. That does not mean we have to like everything that is happening. It does mean we accept what happens and stop fighting with reality.
When we are going through any kind of expectation hangover, especially the ending of a relationship, there is often a tendency to blame the other or feel like a victim in some way. This is even more likely if we feel the other person betrayed us or wronged us in some way.
But if we REALLY want to heal and be free after something ends, we MUST get out of blaming (others AND ourselves) or feeling like a victim. The only way we get free is if we not only forgive, but also look at what we have learned from the situation so that we do not re-create the same kind of expectation hangover in the future.
Something my coach, Brandy, says to me often is, “Take 100% responsibility for your 50%.”
I will admit that is challenging sometimes and requires a level of accountability WITHOUT self-criticism. I have had to learn how to take responsibility for what has happened – or hasn’t happened – in my life without regretting things or beating myself up . . . and I encourage you to do the same!
We cannot change the past but we can learn from it and create a different present and future. @ChristinHassler (Click to Tweet!)
Have a beautiful day and, remember, take 100% responsibility for your life!!
Christine Hassler has broken down the complex and overwhelming experience of recovering from disappointment into a step-by-step treatment plan in her new book Expectation Hangover. This book reveals the formula for how to process disappointment on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels to immediately ease suffering. Instead of wallowing in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, we can see these experiences as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility. You can find more info on her website, and follow her on Twitter and FB.
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