As we walk through the journey of life we will experience the presence of many different people who will touch our hearts in numerous ways. Some are with us from birth and some enter our story in different chapters, however each of them can bring a kaleidoscope of inspiration, disappointment, joy, heartache, happiness and pain. Those who bring us joy, those who show us happiness, are those that allow this journey toward purpose and peace simple and effortless. However, realistically, there will be disappointment and we will feel pain, and the source may be from those we love.
The pain that they may bring, the heartache they may cause and the disappointment you may feel can take you to your knees, question your faith and, at times, destroy your hope. It is our most human trait to believe in the purity of love. We are wired to believe that if one loves another, they will not cause the other harm. When that trust is shattered, to believe again seems like a pointless endeavor. I know this, I’ve felt this, and I’ve wanted to pretend that the pain was a figment of my imagination. In response, my heart hardened, and while my world may have been darker the path was smoother, risk-free with no cliffs, no valleys and no chance of falling again. The loneliness and the pain that came when the center of my being shut down was something I never expected.
The pain of shutting off and closing my heart, to just walk this earth without really living, was a pain I didn’t realize I was feeling, but when I did, I knew it was not a path I wanted to travel.
For so long I didn’t want to believe that those who happened to enter my life were imperfectly human, yet they are human.
They are breathing, feeling, heart-pumping humans with battles within themselves that we are unaware, and we are not to judge. It was difficult for me to accept that each one of us is an imperfect soul that strives to piece together this puzzle of life, and that while the choice of crossing paths may not be ours, the choice to love them anyway, whether we choose to stay, or to walk away, is ours to make.
I recently heard an interview where the author spoke of a conversation she had had with her priest. She asked him if he felt people do the best that they can in this life. His response led me to reassess my entire outlook on those who cross our paths. He asked, if God were to come down and tell you that these people that have hurt us, disappointed us or caused us heartache were truly doing the best they could, they were living their life the best they were capable, would your perspective change?
It was a powerful concept that has been difficult for me to shake, and I have used in my process of understanding and forgiving. What if they are doing the best that they can, and while understanding their actions may be difficult to ask, love them anyway, even if it must be from afar.
When your parents shatter the perfect image you have carried in your mind since you were a child, love them anyway;
When your children don’t act like the perfect angels you wish them to be, love them anyway;
When your spouse/friend/partner disappoints, betrays or hurts you, love them anyway;
When family doesn’t treat you like family, love them anyway;
When the random stranger shows you nothing but angst, love them anyway;
When you cross paths with someone who emits hate, hurt and sadness, love them anyway; and
When you feel like you are not worth the effort or feel alone, love you anyway;
…because honestly, we need more love in this world.
We don’t have to agree with the actions or surround ourselves with those who are blind to the beauty of this life, but we can wish them love in their hearts, and love them anyway. @Positive_Love4u (Click to Tweet!)
Lisa Juergens is a mom, an athlete, a kid at heart, a lover of chocolate and cheese popcorn, and knows deep down she was meant to inspire, teach, coach, love and support those who feel lost or alone. Dreamer turned blogger, Lisa has made it her mission to spread as much kindness, positivity and love as humanly possible by using the gifts she was blessed with in her life.
Image courtesy of Brooke Cagle.