When you were born you were totally aware of these Truths: You are whole and complete. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you. You are worthy and deserving. You are a spiritual being having a human experience. You can trust the Universe. All there is and all that matters is Love. You are love.

And then you got older.

And things happened.

And you started to forget the Truth.

You started moving out of the awareness of love and into fear, doubt, and judgment.

Someone told you that you did something wrong and you started to believe that something is wrong with you. Someone in your life left or wasn’t really there for you and you began to question whether or not you are lovable.

You saw or heard people yelling at each other and you got scared. You got yelled at for something you said and you decided it was better to stop speaking your truth. You got hurt or saw someone get hurt and you stopped trusting.

Your heart got broken so you thought it would be safer to build some walls around it. You began to doubt love.

People called you a mean name and you believed them. And now you call yourself that.

People said your dreams were impossible and you believed them. And now you don’t dream anymore.

You got left out of something. You felt isolated or separate and now you still feel like you are living on the sidelines of life because you mistakenly believe that’s where you belong. You experienced rejection and now you are afraid to go after what you want. You began to believe that you are alone and have to do it all on your own. Perhaps you even concluded that asking for help is weak.

You did not do as well at something as you wanted and you judged yourself as a failure. Some label or diagnosis got thrown on you and you started to confuse it for who you are.

You looked at other people and thought they were smarter, more attractive, and better in some way and now you work hard to make yourself more like others. Not only did you stop liking you, you stopped being you.

You got disappointed and you stopped believing in magic and miracles. Life felt unfair and you questioned God.

You began to look to the outside world for validation and forgot that your worth has nothing to do with what you do, what you have or who you are with.

As time has gone on you have gotten farther from the Truth. And you know it. You feel an inner call to stop believing the lies. There is sense of urgency emerging …


You didn’t do anything wrong. You are not broken. There is nothing you need to do or be in order to be loved. You are safe. It is safe to trust. You are not alone. There is no one any better or worse than you. You are uniquely you and you are absolutely perfect at being you. You belong. You are worthy and deserving. You are not what you have been labeled as.

People were mean to you because they didn’t know any better. People leaving
or not being there for you had nothing to do with you.

It is not weak to ask for help. Support is available to you. You are not alone and you never have been.

It’s impossible for your heart to truly break. It is unbreakable and full of unconditional love and compassion.

Everything in your life that you have experienced is for your learning and growth. Stop asking, “Why did this happen?” and start asking, “What can I learn from what’s happened?” Trust that all those times you didn’t get what you wanted are what you truly needed.

Everything in your life that you have experienced is for your learning and growth. Stop asking, “Why did this happen?” and start asking, “What can I learn from what’s happened?” @ChristinHassler (Click to Tweet!)

I’m sorry that the people you wanted to hear “I’m sorry” from did not say it to you. You can forgive even what you think is unforgivable. Forgiveness is not about condoning what happened, it’s about your freedom.

As soon as you truly accept yourself, your fear of rejection will vaporize.

You have never really failed. You have always done the best you could. Seriously.

The Universe is for you.

Are you for you?

And you do not need to learn how to love yourself, you already know. Love is your essence. You have just forgotten that Truth. Activate your memory by reducing the time and energy you spend on thoughts and actions that reinforce your forgetfulness. Stop expecting anything or anyone else to do it for you.

There is nothing you have to find, simply recognize what is already there.
Your purpose in life is not to do something grand or achieve some goal. Your purpose is to return to where you began: Love.

A loving reminder from my heart to yours,


“It is only when we forget all our learning that we begin to know.” – Henry David Thoreau

“In the long run, digging for truth has always proved not only more interesting but more profitable than digging for gold.” – George Harrison

“Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are.”- Rachel Naomi Remen

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Christine Hassler has broken down the complex and overwhelming experience of recovering from disappointment into a step-by-step treatment plan in her new book Expectation Hangover. This book reveals the formula for how to process disappointment on the emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual levels to immediately ease suffering. Instead of wallowing in regret, self-recrimination, or anger, we can see these experiences as catalysts for profound transformation and doorways that open to possibility. You can find more info on her website, and follow her on Twitter and FB.

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