It’s not the events of our lives that shape us, but our beliefs as to what those events mean. ~ Tony Robbins
Maybe it has been going on for a while now. That feeling of things being not quite right. It colors your day, enough to make you take note and wonder if you need to do something different.
But you aren’t sure what the answer is. You aren’t even sure if that’s the right question!
Learning to ask the right questions of yourself is so important. This kind of inner inquiry, what I call “inner research“, starts you down the path of deeper self-discovery.
And self-discovery is what guides you to your next step. The right direction.
So, let me ask you: What do you believe? What do you need to question in your life?
What are you willing to question?
The Power of Your Values and Beliefs
Of course you have a set of values and beliefs. And whether or not you are aware of it, they impact every choice you make in life.
Your values and beliefs become part of your foundation. They develop through your upbringing, societal influence, your role models and your life experiences.
These values are deeply embedded in your way of thinking. Which means that they’re usually hidden from your conscious awareness.
Yet they guide you, nonetheless, as you move through life.
Without examining the underpinnings of what you hold to be true, your perception of situations is limited, framed by something that you may not even realize. You react to situations or deal with things the same way you always have.
Only to have the result reinforce the original belief.
Circular, isn’t it?
But what if you were to pause in your reaction to a situation or to a person? And question what is behind that feeling?
Is there an expectation about how something should be happening or about how you should behave? Does your partner, colleague, child (insert whoever you like here) need to see things the way that you do?
Do you still believe what you used to believe when you were much younger than you are today? Really? Or is it just habit?
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Notice if a long-held value is no longer serving who you are today. That is the key. Because if a belief is no longer serving you, it’s time for it to move on. You’ll know it’s not serving you by how it makes you feel—
Stuck, unclear, self-righteous, judged or judgmental.
As you are willing to question your responses, especially to situations that feel challenging, you discover the beliefs that lie underneath. You tease out the strands from the structure of your mindset.
Here is what I mean.
Be willing to question everything: your actions, your beliefs, and especially, the way you feel. @TheBacaJourney (Click to Tweet!)
Questioning is different from self-doubt. Questioning allows you to discover something new about yourself and the situation at hand.
It gives you true, resonant power so that you no longer feel stuck.
But Attitude is Key
The attitude you have in questioning is key. If you have any attachment to being right, or any concern about being wrong, you cannot discover.
If you judge yourself, or another, in your questions, you cannot discover.
With a commitment to question yourself and an openness to discover, the answers begin to unfold. That is good news, indeed.
If you don’t change your beliefs, your life will be like this forever. Is that good news? ~ W. Somerset Maugham
Laurie Seymour is a mentor/guide, #1 best-selling author, host of the Wisdom Talk Radio podcast and founder of The Baca Journey. She helps women and men who are in the midst of great change to have a direct experience of their inner wisdom, dissolving self-doubt. Then she provides the strategies to sustain their inner connection so that they live the life they know is possible with confidence. Start now with a complimentary exploratory session (virtual tea!). Let’s explore where you’ve been and illuminate where you’re heading.
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