Here’s a secret — you can be a good person with a kind heart and still say no.
This took me years to figure out, and it affected my gut health! It’s gonna get personal here but I could hardly go to the bathroom once a week. I tried crazy elimination diets, meditations, weird abdominal exercises — all trying to fix the problem of my messed up digestion. I would find myself tired, frustrated, and incredibly bloated. What was wrong with my body?!
This journey to heal these issues led me to do the work that I currently specialize in as a Medical Intuitive.
Sometimes our health issues have nothing to do with fixing a problem as much as finding what our bodies are potentially reacting or responding to. It makes sense to look into diet, of course. Healing can happen when we change around our diet and add a few supplements. Sometimes diet and supplements alone aren’t enough! We have this thing called life we need to explore.
How are our bodies relating to the life that we are living?
In my situation, turns out nothing was wrong with my body. What was wrong was how I was choosing to function in my day to day life. My body was honoring my feelings. I was resentful and angry a lot of the time. Healthy boundaries were a foreign idea to me.
You see, I wanted people to like me. I would spend a lot more time in a conversations than I wanted because I didn’t want to hurt someones feelings. I would say yes to things asked of me even though inside I was screaming no! I wanted to be seen as a good person. I was afraid that if I said no I was being a selfish jerk! If I was capable of helping someone, why wouldn’t I want to do that?!
What was wrong with me? Well these thoughts over and over again led me to keep saying yes to so many things I barely had time to stop and think about myself, my own life, and what I wanted to experience. Not only did my gut take quite a beating, I started having some issues with anxiety.
I remember hearing a lecture that changed my course. During the talk the teacher said if you don’t want to say yes to something, then don’t dishonor yourself. Say no without explanation. When you say no to someone it gives someone else in their life an opportunity to say yes.
News flash from my higher self to me! Just because someone asked for something didn’t mean I needed to say yes all of the time. Holy Crap! Revelation time! If I said no it meant someone else would be there to say yes!
From that moment on, little pieces of my personal journey started to come together. I started to say no to people when something they asked of me didn’t bring me joy. I gave myself permission to honor how I felt. Just because my date book said I had time free, it didn’t mean I needed to fill it up saying yes to other people. I started saying no to things and actually had some time left unscheduled – so I began spending that time getting to know myself better.
I began journaling, inhaling spiritual books and lectures, meditating, chanting, and doing all kinds of things that felt amazing with my time. I found my energy starting to creep back in to my day, my anxiety began to evaporate, and my body started to heal rapidly. The awful gut issues began to vanish as I took time for myself and truly gave myself permission to honor how I felt. Imagine that! My body began to heal itself as I began to honor myself. Healthy boundaries were the core of me being able to heal my body.
Every thought and emotion we hold onto affects our bodies in one way or another. This is such a powerful concept to grasp when one is trying to heal their body. Our bodies are so wise. WE are so wise. We signed up for this life to be the caretakers of our bodies and the creators of extraordinary lives. Often our bodies are reminding us that we are ripping ourselves off – that somehow we have forgotten about what really matters. Our choices matter. How we feel about things truly does matter.
I am a very kind person and I can still say no. By saying no someone else in their life has an opportunity to say yes AND by saying no to someone I am saying yes to myself. @intuitionheals (Click to Tweet!)
What an awesome gift of awareness this is was for me and I know it will be for some of you as well!
Robin Lee is a medical intuitive, author, mentor, gratitude advocate, and speaker who has helped thousands of people around the world understand the language of their bodies. Robin believes that our bodies innately know how to balance and heal themselves if given proper care and support. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter, where she shares tips, tools, and techniques to honor our bodies and heal our lives!
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