I just returned from a comtemplative, educational, mystical, mediatative, group spiritual experience.

It was lovely.

I learned so much about myself.

I like to dig deeper into what I like, what I do not like and I have made it a practice to learn about myself through other people.

The way that I live my life is that the people that drive me nuts are my greatest teachers. They are what I call an “opportunity” for me to feel more inner peace.

It is so easy for me be with people who I connect with….and yet the people that I judge and feel frustrated by are the people that give me soil for growth.

That is where I can learn more about myself. They are mirrors of my inside as well.

And they help expose my shadow side.

The way I see it, every interaction is an “opportunity” to go deeper inside and look at the mirror that reflects back at me when I judge others.

The biggest judgment I noticed on this trip was my judgment of people who talk about God and do not really live God like.

There is a part of me that expects and wants us all to walk our talk.

And at the same time, I know I do not always walk my talk.

It’s one thing to say you are spiritual – it is another to hold being grounded in spiritual principles when you are in traffic, with crowds, pressed for time, etc.

When I find myself drifting into judgment and moving away from God,  I repeat these two mantras over and over again.

“I want the peace of God”


I am the light of the world and there is ONLY room for LOVE as a light in this world.”

These statements help bring me back to the moment and help me notice how my judgment helps NO ONE, especially myself.

I am curious how you deal with yourself when judgment towards others, (especially when you are in group settings), shows up?

Do you blame, learn, self-reflect, get annoyed?

How do you deal with it?

Please feel free to share your truth in the comments below.

I welcome hearing from you.

Laura Fenamore, Body Image Expert, Coach and acclaimed Author is on a mission to help women around the world end the constant battle with their bodies and start adoring who they see in the mirror. Her approach walks students and readers through the heartfelt journey to self-love at any size or age by unlocking the secrets to a lifetime of emotional, physical and spiritual health. After overcoming a lifelong battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, Laura released 100 pounds – keeping it off for more than 28 years. She chronicles this journey to self-love and health in her widely acclaimed book, Skinny, Fat, Perfect: Love Who You See in the Mirror. Learn more about Laura’s programs, or invite her to speak by visiting SkinnyFatPertect.com.