Here’s something that you need to know. And embrace. Then do something about.
We want the best YOU there is.
Seriously. If you’re on top of the world, keep bringing your A game. If you’re on the bottom of the heap, or you feel like you’re in the middle of hell, and hearing me say, “We want the best you,” makes me wonder what I mean, hold tight. I’ll speak to the pain you might be feeling in a minute.
First, let me explain why you being your best is so important.
You are here for a reason. You’re where you are right now because there’s a purpose you’re living and a reason you’re here. You might not know what that purpose is yet. And that’s ok. You’ll discover it soon.
I found my purpose accidentally
Usually people find their purpose when they’re not looking for it. Maybe that’s how it’s supposed to happen. It hit me one day and I knew that I knew that I knew.
Regardless of whether you know your purpose or not, the best YOU leads to the best life. We all want a few things on this trek around the sun.
We want happiness. We want love. Peace. Awesome experiences. We want to make some money and live with people who we can share the joys of life with.
We want to be passionate about the work we do and the people we serve. To be excited every day to get up and see what God has in store for us.
The best you make these desires come into being and experience in the best ways. The best you benefits everyone in each of these equations.
You being your best delivers you from anguish, struggle, fear, insecurities, and worry. Because even when you feel those feelings you know how to rise above them and overcome the struggle.
You’re a champion. And you lead other people in winning against their biggest obstacles.
If you’re going through personal hell, maybe from heartbreak or a painful emotional experience, the “best you” might seem like a pipe dream. You just want to feel hope and peace. Maybe you want to be able to sleep a full night, or even just a few hours without waking up stressed and anxious.
I understand that. That was my story a few years ago after experiencing the crushing heartbreak of divorce.
But I can testify that the way out of that pain is through. Let me repeat that because it’s really really important.
The way out is through
It’s also the way into you becoming the best version of yourself.
Here’s what I mean:
Trials, difficulties, challenges and obstacles are guaranteed. Everyone experiences them. By everyone, I literally mean every single human being on this planet, and all the ones who came before us, had challenges.
Stuff that happened that seemed impossible. Made them want to quit. Make you want to go, “Nope, I didn’t sign up for this!” and walk away.
Difficulties are tense, stressful and hard. Make no mistake. They’re supposed to be that way.
The universe allows each of us to go through difficulties so that you can rise above and become your best self.
Did you catch that? Difficulties, struggles, and obstacles are a part of the human story because it’s a part of the process built-in to propel you into your best life.
When I experienced the most gut-wrenching heartbreak, God allowed me to go through it. I’m not saying He made it happen. But I was already broken on the inside. I just couldn’t see it
Are you fearful and insecure?
Those were symptoms of the internal brokenness I had while I was married. In those ways, I wasn’t able to fully love my wife. I say that not to justify her decision to leave, but to look at this experience objectively and with compassion. I needed to be whole to fulfill my purpose in life. Which is to BE the love in the room.
I couldn’t BE love if I was broken on the inside, needing validation and acceptance from others to feel confident. Or just be ok. I was operating out of weakness instead of strength. Because I was operating out of fear. Fear ruled how I saw myself, and ultimately how I approached other people.
The only way I can see that changing is by going through what I went through: being torn away from the relationship and the person I’d built my confidence and world around. Kinda like how the military tears you down to your primal, most elemental nature so they can build you back up again strong and unshakeable.
The opportunity is right in front of you
We’re all given opportunities in life to become strong and unshakeable, to become our best self. It requires us to do uncommon things, following a path that isn’t what everyone else is doing. It means going through the fire instead of dancing around it. Or running away from it.
The fire is proverbial. I’m referring to the personal hell. Leaning into the pain to let it teach you what needs to change so that you can emerge on the other side a transformed and reborn person. You come out of hell the best version of yourself.
And now you have the keys to freedom. Which you can show others how to get by teaching them from your story.
That’s what I do in my book Be Solid: How To Go Through Hell & Come Out Whole. Becoming a solid person is about becoming the best version of you. It’s a process. It’s a constant work to be leveling up to the next best version of you.
Which means that the journey through life and becoming the best version of you is part of your purpose. So if you’re struggling to figure out what your specific purpose is, start with becoming the best you there can be. Are you taking steps to make this happen today?
Here’s the truth: Your mission and job is to BE your best you.
Your work deserves the best you.
Your boss deserves the best you.
Your coworkers deserve the best you.
Your customers deserve the best you.
Your colleagues deserve the best you.
Your prospects and market deserves the best you.
Your industry deserves the best you.
Your spouse/partner/significant other deserves the best you.
Your kids deserve the best you.
Your family deserves the best you.
Your friends deserve the best you.
You deserve the best you.
YOU are worth investing in. You are worth fighting for. You are worth prizing and valuing.
Go live it. You can do it. I believe in you.
You’re worth fighting for!
If you feel this, Try this
Becoming the best version of you is a choice. Decide today that you’re tired of mediocrity, of just getting by. Decide that you’re going all-in on you.
Because the BEST you is someone who bets it all on you. Because you’re worth it.
What about the fear? The fear of failure and mistakes and getting it wrong….
Your best self isn’t afraid of failure because the best knows that failure isn’t game over. Failure is a powerful learning experience that creates necessary growth and change.
You learn more when you get things wrong than doing it perfectly.
Embrace failure, mistakes and getting things wrong. Keep committed to your best and you’ll experience that over and over again.
BE-ing the best you is also about shifting your mindset. Which means you tell yourself a different story about who you are.
Affirm and declare: “I am living my best life and becoming the best version of me.” That’s a powerful story.
You live out the stories you tell yourself. So change your story to change your life.
D Grant Smith is known as the Growth Farmer, which means he has an old-fashioned approach to living a whole & healthy life. Get his free ebook called Love Is The Seed To Success, that gives help in healing relationships and growing healthy ones. His new book Be Solid: How To Go Through Hell & Come Out Whole is about the journey into self-love and self-care after heartbreak and personal loss. He’s an empowerment superhero who would love to give you encouragement so feel free to reach out!
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