The “Mother Wound” and the “Father Wound.” Loaded labels floating around the self-help circles. I have a suggestion… Let’s go deeper with this while respecting our experience, and not causing unnecessary harm to others.

The good news/bad news is that not all of our “stuff” comes from our parents. The good news/bad news is that there are plenty of potential sources for being neglected, invalidated, hurt. There are other feminine and masculine figures coming in and out of our lives that can do perceived damage to our own femininity and masculinity. There are past lives we’re still sorting out. And oppressive cultural messaging in this lifetime––the kind that toxic patriarchy specializes in.

How about this option? We have “yin/yang” or “feminine/masculine” wounding that we’re healing.

It’s an important distinction to make because if we use this language of the Mother/Father Wound, we might be projecting gravity onto our family of origin—that they don’t deserve. It blocks forgiveness. And… we don’t want to perpetuate untruths. We want to be in the true reality of love.

Words matter. They can hurt, they can heal—in all directions.

With Love,



Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” She is author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path—from one seeker to another. The Fire Starter Sessions, and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul—the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries. Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, millions of visitors go to every month for her daily #Truthbombs and what’s been called “the best place online for kickass spirituality.” A speaker, a poet, a painter, and a former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, Entrepreneur Magazine calls Danielle, “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” Her charities of choice are Eve Ensler’s VDay: a global movement to end violence against women and girls, and charity: water, setting out to bring safe drinking water to everyone in the world. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her favourite philosopher, her son. You can find her @daniellelaporte and just about everywhere on social media.