We live in an era of instant gratification. We know what we want, and how to get it fast. Hungry? Order dinner from Seamless with a few clicks on your phone and it will be at your apartment when you get there. Want to connect with a loved one? Use your voice activation button to send the text or write the email as you are running in the park. No need to take the time to pick up your phone or schedule an in person meeting, it can all be done virtually and immediately. In many ways this has made life easier (Who remembers how it was, before computers ruled the world, waaaay back in the olden days when people looked in a rolodex to find your digits and then manually entered your agreed upon appointment in their filofax?) The emphasis placed on systems working faster and more efficiently is never ending.

I am all for efficiency but I see in my therapy practice, how the instant gratification generation has unrealistic expectations about how long something should take to accomplish.

All things in life don’t happen at record speed. When it comes to the business of your dreams, finding a soul mate, or the book deal you are seeking, it may seem as though it cannot happen fast enough but you must trust the process and the process takes time.

When things don’t happen in your time frame it can be frustrating. Many people either tend to lose faith, or force solutions that don’t end up actually bringing forth their desired results. As my dear pal Kris Carr would say, you screaming, “Grow Faster!” at your kale will not actually make it grow faster. There is a time for sowing and a time for reaping.

Beyond your idea of what should happen, and when, there is a divine order. As spiritual activist and author Marianne Williamson often says, this is a self-organizing and self-correcting universe: the embryo becomes a baby, the bud becomes a blossom, the acorn becomes an oak tree. Clearly, there is some invisible force that is moving every aspect of reality to its next best expression. Trust in this divine intelligence. If you take a moment to look back at the timing of your own life you might see that…

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We have all had people, experiences, things we thought FOR SURE we must have to be happy (job, relationship, apartment, etc.) that now, in hindsight, we see were not meant to be. The mysteries of the Universe are vast. Being OK with not knowing exactly how it is all going to play out, leaves space for spontaneity and flexibility.

Being rigidly attached to YOUR timeline, can make you feel ENDLESSLY BEHIND  in life.

When you can relax into the flow of life, you enjoy the process more. Work on having faith that the Universe is endlessly conspiring in your favor and working out the details. Remind yourself that as long as you put forth the effort and take the necessary steps towards your dreams, good things will happen.

Please share with me in the comments below one situation that you would like to surrender to divine timing. Then throughout this week, if a moment should arise where you begin to feel stressed or frustrated that things aren’t happening according to plan, take a breath, and come to back to this blog. Use it as a gentle reminder that life is unfolding as it should. There is a master plan, and your happiness is very much a part of it.

Have a divine week and as always, take care of you.

Love Love Love


Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. Sign up for Terri’s weekly Tune Up Tips and follow her on Twitter.

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