If I could give you one thing today, I would give to you the gift of knowing that you are worthy of being happy.
How much time have you spent wasting away waiting to prove that you are good enough? This feeling of needing to prove can often come from needing to forgive yourself of mistakes that you think you have made.
I encourage you to give yourself a most wonderful gift…
Take a deep breath.
Write down all of these so-called mistakes and regrets that you have.
Really take time. Don’t do this half-assed.
You are worthy of making this time for yourself.
You are worthy of letting go of the things that no longer support you.
Finish these sentences…
If I didn’t do this then ____________________
If this didn’t happen to me then I would ____________________
I would feel good and worthy enough to experience happiness.
Take time and write away.
Let yourself feel how you are feeling when you are writing out your list. Notice yourself starting to get angry or irritated? Hopeless? Notice your body starting to tighten up and restrict? As you write, imagine that your writing removes the weight of these so called mistakes/regrets. Everything that we do in life is intended to help us creep a little bit more toward unconditional happiness — though self hatred and judgment may try to tell you differently.
Take a deep breath.
Really slow down your breath.
Inhale through the nose and exhale out through the mouth.
With each inhale, say to yourself, “I allow myself to feel happy.”
As you exhale out, allow the stress, judgment, negativity, and self hatred to leave your body and mind.
Things happen in life that we often don’t prefer. We can breathe through these times and extract out the lessons that they are giving us the opportunity to learn.
If we do this, we will inch our way toward happiness every moment of everyday. If we forget to breathe and get stuck feeling that life is against us and happening to us, instead of offering a gift for us, we will become bitter and resentful over time.
Take a moment to look at the list that you wrote. While looking at each thing, ask yourself what the lesson or opportunity was that each situation was offering for you to learn. What was the hidden gift? What would you not have learned if this situation didn’t happen?
When things don’t go the they way that you want in life, it doesn’t mean that you are getting punished or have done something wrong. Life just happens. The meaning that you choose for these experiences creates the quality of your lives.
Happiness really is a choice. In order to feel happy you must let go of the things that are holding you back.
When you look back at life with regret, you will be unable to see the beauty in front of you. Why? Because you aren’t looking in front of you. Why choose to hold on when you can just as easily let go… and be free from the chains of unhappiness.
You are free to do, to think, and to be anything that you could possible dream of.
Wouldn’t now be a good time to commit to your happiness and creation of an extraordinarily beautiful life?
Robin Lee is a medical intuitive, author, mentor, gratitude advocate, and speaker who has helped thousands of people around the world understand the language of their bodies. Robin believes that our bodies innately know how to balance and heal themselves if given proper care and support. Visit her website and follow her on Facebook and Twitter, where she shares tips, tools, and techniques to honor our bodies and heal our lives!
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