Do you ever sit back and reflect about how often you compromise what you want, need, or value to please others?

Do you think about how often you say YES when what you want to say NO?!

We live in a world of dualities.


And you are bombarded with external opinions, such as Say Yes to Life or Just Say No.

  • What are you to do?
  • And what is right for you?

I was in an exercise class last week and the instructor was sharing how we need to say YES to everything in order to live our lives fully. The next day I was in a class and the instructor said, you all need to start saying NO more to things and start turning down things more often.

I chuckled inside and thought how grateful I feel to have the ability to make up my own mind about when to say YES and when to say NO.

I often fall down and forget. However, I know I can always get back up, brush myself off and learn from my experience. I see life as a self-improvement journey, not a self-perfection journey.

Self-care is a cornerstone of self-love and self-love will lead us to greater physical, spiritual and emotional health.


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You can change your mind about these opposing opinions coming at you and be yourself.

I am committed to changing my own mind by taking baby steps when change feels challenging.

Change is a gift. It may be difficult for our minds to believe and yet resistance is a gift too.

They offer us opportunities to go deeper into our process of who we are and what we are seeking in terms of having a body we feel great about.

I read this quote the other day,

I have learned to use the word impossible with great caution.

I love that.

What is possible for you today?

Who or what would you like to say YES and NO to feel better about your self-care and body?

If you don’t like how things are, you are the only one who has the power to change it.

When thinking about your health and body image, when do you need to say NO and when is it appropriate to say YES?

I believe, the purpose of our lives is to be happy. It is my opinion that your only real job is to be happy.

Being happy will lead to health and what the world needs is shining examples of happiness and health.

While Yes’s and NO’s are situation appropriate, I would love to hear what you need to say NO to in order to say YES to your health and self-care.

Please feel free to share your experience by commenting below.

Laura Fenamore, Body Image Expert, Coach and acclaimed Author is on a mission to help women around the world end the constant battle with their bodies and start adoring who they see in the mirror. Her approach walks students and readers through the heartfelt journey to self-love at any size or age by unlocking the secrets to a lifetime of emotional, physical and spiritual health. After overcoming a lifelong battle with addiction, obesity, and eating disorders, Laura released 100 pounds – keeping it off for more than 28 years. She chronicles this journey to self-love and health in her widely acclaimed book, Skinny, Fat, Perfect: Love Who You See in the Mirror. Learn more about Laura’s programs, or invite her to speak by visiting

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