Do you tell yourself that once you lose the twenty pounds you’ll be ready to dive into the dating pool?

What level of success do you think you need to reach before you are worthy of being loved?

Are you harsh and critical of yourself and others for any small mistake?

For week two of the Real Love Revolution video series, we are tackling the topic of perfectionism. Many people believe being a perfectionist equals being successful – they brag about getting four hours of sleep because of work, they believe workaholism is necessary to reach their goals, and they use their achievements to avoid shame, blame, guilt and rejection.

Perfectionism not only causes you stress and unnecessary anxiety from this perceived need to always “get it right,” it actually prevents you from moving forward in your life and your relationships.

The need to be perfect can be a result of an array of dysfunctional childhood experiences. This creates a fear of failure, which can make you extremely sensitive to any criticism, causing people to tip-toe around you and preventing them from communicating honestly with you.

Fear of failure is also fear of rejection. #RealLoveRevolution @terri_cole (Click to Tweet!)

You can’t share yourself authentically if you are always adapting your behavior to please others so they won’t reject you. So rather than looking at perfectionism as a synonym for success, let’s see it for what it truly is: a roadblock on your journey to real love, with yourself and with others.

In this video, you will get:

  • A quick expansion meditation
  • Tips for understanding how perfectionism is harmful to your relationships
  • A look at how your childhood may have caused your fear of failure and rejection
  • A checklist to assess your level of dysfunctional perfectionism
  • How to feel worthy for more than your accomplishments
  • And much more!


Click here for a checklist to analyze your potential perfectionist behaviors and leave me a comment here on the blog to let me know if it expanded your level of awareness about this topic. And don’t forget to subscribe to my YouTube channel for direct access to every video from the Real Love Revolution each week, and please share the #RealLoveRevolution on social media because we could all use a little more love!

If you take the time to not only watch this video, but to truly analyze yourself via the checklist, I know you can raise your awareness about your need for perfection so you can start focusing on what’s right about your one of a kind life.

Click here to watch now!

And as always, take care of you!

Terri Cole is a licensed psychotherapist, transformation coach, and an expert at turning fear into freedom. Sign up for Terri’s weekly Newsletter, check out her blog and follow her on Twitter.

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