Sweet Seekers! (As in, fellow humans looking for lightness and direction-refinement…)
Here’s your second installment of Free & Clear. (Last week was RETROSPECTION).
WEEK 2: EXPECTATIONS & LETTING GO
Sometimes the letting-go process feels really sexy and empowering. Burn it! Nix it! Bye! And sometimes, we want to hold on (grip, cuddle, cling) to things. What if I need it? If I polish it up, then can I keep it? But I worked so hard on this…
There are times to get amped up and “just let that sh-t go.” But letting go usually involves other people, or hopes that we’ve carried a long time, and letting go can be connected to our livelihood. If you’re a loving, mindful creature (which you are, because you’re reading this), then letting go is typically entangled with some considerations. Because you care—about others, and your mental health.
Whether you need to perform delicate surgery on your commitments, or you need to just blow some sh-t up and walk away, healthy letting go requires mindfulness. So let’s really feel and think this through to get you free and clear.
We’re going to open a door that’s easy to miss when we want to clean out what’s holding us back. We’re going to examine what it FEELS like to let go of stuff. Not WHAT we’re getting rid of or changing, but the sensation (ecstasy? terror?) of releasing and changing. And it turns out that those emotions are very wrapped up in expectations.
This exercise is not about making fast, high-pressure decisions about overhauling your entire life in five steps. This is much more fluid and abstract. I’m just asking you to consider how some behaviours feel. We want to point light on our subconscious so that our decisions—when it comes time to make them—are much more conscious.
We’ll come at this from two directions. One: Your Expectations. Two: What you hold dear to you.
HOW TO WATCH LIVE:
Instagram: On your phone find @desiremap. Click on the profile photo and join my Live Story. When it’s over, you can view it again for up to 24 hours, in the same place!
Facebook: I’ll be streaming live in the Desire Map Facebook Group. The video will appear at the top of the group page.
Let go. Because in the chaos-crazy times, we need to question what’s worked, what hasn’t, and how we’re going to create something better—for ourselves and each other.
Around the corner…
The theme for the next edition of FREE & CLEAR will be: WANT TO CHANGE. (It’s going to feel empowering. Eventually. I promise.)
Before you go…
Book reco: Start Where You Are, by Pema Chodron
Spotify Playlist: SWEET LETTING GO
Tunes: Some music for your contemplations…
- Kingdom Come, Raury
- Coming Home, Leon Bridges
- Sisters of Mercy, Serena Ryder
- Landslide, Antony
- Ascension, Maxwell
- For You, Angus & Julia Stone
- You Can’t Always Get What You Want, The Rolling Stones
Danielle LaPorte is an invited member of Oprah’s SuperSoul 100, a group who, in Oprah Winfrey’s words, “is uniquely connecting the world together with a spiritual energy that matters.” She is author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path—from one seeker to another. The Fire Starter Sessions, and The Desire Map: A Guide To Creating Goals With Soul—the book that has been translated into 8 languages, evolved into a yearly day planner system, a top 10 iTunes app, and an international workshop program with licensed facilitators in 15 countries.
Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, millions of visitors go to DanielleLaPorte.com every month for her daily #Truthbombs and what’s been called “the best place online for kickass spirituality.” A speaker, a poet, a painter, and a former business strategist and Washington-DC think tank exec, Entrepreneur Magazine calls Danielle, “equal parts poet and entrepreneurial badass…edgy, contrarian…loving and inspired.” Her charities of choice are Eve Ensler’s VDay: a global movement to end violence against women and girls, and charity: water, setting out to bring safe drinking water to everyone in the world. She lives in Vancouver, BC with her favourite philosopher, her son. You can find her @daniellelaporte and just about everywhere on social media.