Love is Vulnerability
No person or event from your past can stand in the way of love. Love is much, much stronger. When you are fresh from heartbreak, it may be hard to see what lies in the future. It may seem impossible to think you can trust again. Love is vulnerability, there’s no way around that. The safety we will seek can be thrown when we experience the loss of a relationship, but there is something happening on a much higher level when life delivers us these events that seem so shattering. It’s at those times that we stand at a crossroads. Are we going to keep our hearts open? Are we going to trust that life is not just the light, but the dark, also? Will we see the continuum of experience and move through it with self-love and grace?
Make Space for Your Emotional Journey
It’s important to feel your emotions, totally. If you were deeply in love, the end of a relationship can feel like a death. There is a space for grief, but don’t let it consume you. You may also be feeling anger. Let it sink in, then flow out. In the end “you” is all you have, and your mind creates your reality. All else is an illusion, which is not to say that certain twists and turns of life are not painful. What will you do with that pain? Can you help someone else who needs it? Can you remember that capacity to love, and your confidence in it, makes you vulnerable?
Those two sides of love are joined at the hip. You have to understand that; there’s no avoiding the risk. If you want to live life as fully as we all deserve to, you have to muster the willingness to mend your heart. It might be glued together for quite some time, but you can start to experience happiness, hope and connection with it in that state of repair. And remember, often it is through the cracks that light shines through the most.
Love Is Always Available
When you can look at yourself, and even the person who broke your heart, with compassion, love is available to you, always. It finds you. You don’t have to do anything else but enter your heart. Love doesn’t function like a train, with some sort of time schedule, or grand track design. You don’t ever know exactly who or what will turn up for you, nor how or when. Grasping onto any hurt, expectation or urge to control, will obscure the relationship you are meant to have with your soul mate.
Derek O’Neill, fondly referred to as the Celtic Sage, inspires and uplifts people from all walks of life, offering guidance to influential world leaders, businesses, celebrities, athletes and everyday people alike. Distilled from his life work in psychotherapy, a martial arts career and study with wise yogis and Indian and Tibetan masters, Derek translates ancient wisdom into modern day teachings to address the biggest challenges facing humanity today. For additional insights listen to his free radio archives or explore over 20 personal development books including Addiction, Bullying, Love/Divorce, Grief, Mindfulness, Anxiety, Stress and Depression.
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