I become disappointed sometimes like all non-enlightened human beings.
My mom became diagnosed with a terminal illness nearly a decade ago. Initial devastation morphed into a heavy feeling of perpetual disappointment for years after the diagnosis.
I suffered through business and financial problems. Desperation dissolved into a general disappointing feeling about my business and financial state.
I experienced family infighting for a while, too. Few situations feel more disappointing than knowing your family does not approve of how you live your life.
Every disappointment eventually taught me three clear lessons:
- life is simply a series of moments
- every alleged disappointment generously purges fears and pains
- purging fear and pain allowed me to live from a more peaceful, calm, abundant vibe
Disappointments reflect heavy attachments to people, places or things. All attachment grows out of fear. Imagine clinging deeply to your mom because you fear losing a parent. The split second your mom becomes gravely ill, a sense of profound sadness, powerful grief and an all-encompassing sense of disappointment clouds your being. Life will never be the same. Even worse; life will never be the dream experience you envisioned for yourself and your family.
The disappointed sensation grows deeper if you resist feeling fear and pain. But the same disappointed emotion dissolves and vanishes if you gently feel fears and pains fueling disappointments. Every disappointment arises because you expected one thing to happen and some other outcome you feared manifesting simply came to pass. Genuinely feeling the feared manifestation and its accompanying pain and grief allows you to purge these energies, creating a general sense of calmness, balance and poise in your being.
Unless my mom got sick, I lost all of my money and my business floundered for years, I likely would have lived a mediocre, unhappy life filled with fear, pain and sadness. Each traumatic event triggered a profound sense of loss and crippling disappointment that allowed me to face, feel and purge deep fears. I realized that my mom’s soul chose her experience in her mortal coil. My financial and business struggles taught me how feeling the fear and pain of losing it all actually allows money and success to flow to you more easily down the road.
Facing, feeling and releasing fears helps you feel relaxed, loving and accepting in all you experience.
Disappointment is not a dreaded end point but a delicious beginning point of facing, feeling and releasing fear and pain that need to go for you to be happy, healthy and prospering. See life as being a series of moments for experiencing and learning from to observe how life happens for you, not to you.
Disappointment goads you to release expectations. Feeling disappointed coaxes you to live in the moment. I never could have become an island hopping, pro blogger being heavily weighed down by the depression of disappointment. Learning how to process fears aligned with these energies helped me move forward with greater grace, poise and love in all I did.
Feeling disappointed teaches you some of the most powerful lessons to learn.
Reframe this energy to cultivate your peace of mind and to develop a sense of balance and serenity within your being.
Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.
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