Do you allow yourself to change your mind? And where did you think you were going to be when you reached your current age?
The ability to change your mind is the ability to believe in and to learn to open the door to the places we may once felt trapped inside and then step outside into new possibilities.
Changing your mind consists of the moments in between the step and the waiting. The forward movement and the pause, the fear, the belief it’s impossible or just unsafe. It’s the belief that maybe something better could exist. And it’s the bravery to find out!
I frequently talk about safety on this show and in these letters because for creatives with a higher purpose, I’ve found that our greater purpose frequently comes as wisdom to be shared from difficult experiences. This could include moments when you did not feel nor know how to feel safe in your own life, your own circumstances, and quite possibly your own body.
It doesn’t matter how much you want to run in the direction of your dreams if you’re tied and weighed down by your past. Does it?
Malcolm X is a powerful example of someone who was brave enough to change his mind, multiple times until he found what was true for him.
Where are your feet? And more than your physical feet, where’s your heart?
Changing your mind doesn’t mean that all the power resides in the mind. I do not believe this to be so. It does however mean, that as my friend once said, it’s “opposite day”.
That some small change gets to take place that indicates the world is a new place with new possibilities. It’s the pebble step towards your new frontier. That your experience of your life can be different.
How does this relate to your dreams?
I believe that dreams are the stuff of which magic is made. They are sacred signals from the deepest parts of you and your destiny (however you define it). Your dharma.
Permission to change your mind means choosing new ideas that fit your new dreams. It means meeting the new people in that new cafe you tried that one day will be your collaborators.
Deeper than that, it allows you to see maybe the world wants better for you. It means letting go of old fears that weighed on you like a wet, 100 lb blanket so you can move with greater ease.
If you’re 100% right all the time, then what is the point of life? If you’re unfulfilled, missing your dreams, or simply confused and sad, then you get to change your mind. Feel your heart. And dream.
You’re here with a purpose, maybe multiple ones. I’m here to help.
It’s time to dream and I believe in you.
Share this with 5 of your friends! They’re going to love it!
With massive love,
P.S. Question to ponder: Pick the thing that is aggravating you the most right now. Consider your current perspective. Now consider, just for a second, you could change your mind to a new perspective. Pick the thing you’re most certain you’re 100% right about and flip it. What would that new perspective be? Don’t worry. No one is looking. You can’t get this wrong. It’s ok to change your mind, mija.
Lalita Ballesteros is a speaker, comedian, director, and the founder of Haus of Lala, a creative agency specializing in personal branding. She stands by the belief that your voice matters and that authentic self-expression is our most important work. In the past, Lalita’s disrupted the publishing industry with Seth Godin and The Domino Project (powered by Amazon) creating six best-sellers and raising over a quarter million in revenue in only four months. She also worked at the American Embassy in Rome, created a 6-figure Airbnb business, and oversaw ambassador efforts at Lyft. She speaks three languages and is a regular contributor for Positively Positive, a publication with over 2.5 million followers on Facebook. Lalita’s been seen on the stages of TEDx and Comedy Bary as well as in the pages of Fast Company, Etsy, Forbes, Yahoo Small Business, Mashable, and the best-selling book End Malaria. She currently lives in Toronto with her dog, Luna. Follow her writings and comedy here and #100daysofcomedy here.
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