Can you feel life’s invitation? What does it take to live fully as who you really are? To live life as you dream of it?
Does that sound out-of-reach? Impossible, even?
We grow up with such a rationed view of ourselves and our possibilities, especially our ability to feel love. Even in the best of life’s circumstances we only discover a fraction of the potential that lies dormant within us.
What gets in the way? Usually it’s any combination of self-doubt, self-criticism or self-denial (I think of them as the Big Bad 3). Any one of them shrinks our ability to feel love still more.
Passing of the torch
Each generation passes on this kind of limited picture to the next one as truth, usually with the best of intentions. My mother gave me countless messages about not getting my hopes up about one thing or another (usually something I was longing for). That if I were allowed to have something “too” special that I wouldn’t have anything to look forward to when I got older. As if the Universe were a limited place that only allowed for a certain amount of “good” things!
Of course, I believed her…and spent the next many years unlearning that!
But how could she teach me something other than what she believed?
How can you teach your children about what is possible if you don’t open yourself first?
Surely, life is not merely a job, an occupation; life is something extraordinarily wide and profound, it is a great mystery, a vast realm in which we function as human beings. – Jiddu Krishnamurti
What life is supposed to be
Have you had that nagging sense that this, how life is for you right now, isn’t how it’s supposed to be? That God didn’t intend for you to feel such fear or doubt, such holding back from life?
This, for me, is what fed my own passion for self-exploration. I wanted to know. I wanted to feel more, see more. Self-doubt was a spur that impelled my exploration.
As you grow up and look more closely at your life, you naturally begin to question the status quo. If you are anything like me, you read countless books about how to “help” yourself, how to become more of who you truly are.
Here is the important part: You may embrace new ideas, but do you really change? Do you feel differently, think differently and act differently?
It is impossible to change how you live and what you do unless you feel something new in your own body. That is how you bring a new idea or possibility into being.
Otherwise, the best ideas in the world will fall apart under the crippling glare of your own self-doubt.
At its bottom,
Self-doubt is the denial of love that is actively available to you. @TheBacaJourney (Click to Tweet!)
I’m talking about Self-love, not romantic love. The kind that doesn’t have anything to do with another person. Love that is cell-penetrating, grander, more magnificent than any human could completely contain or provide.
If your heart is closed down, you aren’t able to receive that Love. You stay with negative patterns, your limiting beliefs or old wounds. That focus keeps alive the negative experiences of your life.
Your invitation from life
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Here’s the secret. You can open to something new that is there inside of you and you can let the feeling of THAT flood every cell in your body. You can ask for it and make space to receive it. It takes discipline to do this, to keep those yucky thoughts and limiting beliefs from holding court in your being.
It takes surrender. It’s an active and aware way of living.
It’s a choice.
It takes practice and patience. And willingness.
When you experience Love as a physical, tangible feeling in your body, as a vibration in your very core, then an incredible strength takes hold within you. It is true freedom.
This is the invitation the Universe is holding out to you. It is available. Receive it. Breathe it in.
Laurie Seymour is a mentor/guide, #1 best-selling author, host of the Wisdom Talk Radio podcast and founder of The Baca Journey. She helps women and men who are in the midst of great change to have a direct experience of their inner wisdom, dissolving self-doubt. Then she provides the strategies to sustain their inner connection so that they live the life they know is possible with confidence. Start now with a complimentary exploratory session (virtual tea!). Let’s explore where you’ve been and illuminate where you’re heading.
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