The one thing I hear from people most is, “My anxiety has been so absorbing that I just want to go to sleep.” 

You wake up, get the kids off to school, go to work, come home, clean the house, make dinner, and then attempt to spend time with your partner, but all you want to do is go to sleep. You feel overwhelmed; full of self-doubt, anxiety, and fatigue and the only word that you can actually identify it as and speak about in public is “stress.”

This is the scenario I hear from almost every woman I work with. It can begin to feel like we have no choice but to live life on this kind of autopilot that we have found somehow to manage it. The truth is that there is an easier way to “manage it” than you think.

The first step is to broaden your perspective.

We are unique among all living things in that we are created to make choices. We are the deciders if we choose to accept it and use it. To think is the creative power of the mind within each of us and we choose that which we think. Think about choice as the same as free will. In order to make a choice, we start with understanding what is out of alignment within our mind, heart, and soul.  

For example, Brittany came to me with a list of issues she felt was weighing her down at work. She no longer felt that her boss was on her side, her new mentor was becoming competitive and untrustworthy, and her constantly increasing workload was causing even more pressure on top of everything else. Being the high performer that she is, this continued for years until her coworker snagged her next promotion out from under her feet. The stress of the situation allowed her to take an honest look at what was taking place. Her mind, heart, and soul were all on different pages.  

I asked her to imagine herself at work and asked her, “What does your mind say about your current situation at work?” She replied with, “I don’t even know that I wanted that job.” Her “work” now was to get clear on what she really wanted so that she could make an empowered, conscious choice on how to move forward. 

Imagine that when we are making a choice, we begin to vibrate a thought through the brain which in turns sets up the size, color, sound, pattern and the form it will take. I’ve learned from my mentor, Dr. Coletta Long, a world-renowned pioneer in regression therapy, that we abstract from pure energy a thought, which directs the energy vibrations that are set into motion. This is the principal of, “as above, so below”. As we begin to learn how to control the energy in constructive ways we can change the physical structure of the body from the atomic level up. We can create a different image of ourselves. In Proverbs 23:7, it says, “As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he.”  This is the law of cause and effect. It is a vibration that starts with the brain and form is changed.

Energy cannot be destroyed, it only changes form. It constantly changes from electromagnetic vibrations into a gas or liquid or solid and back again to electromagnetic energy as needed by the body to sustain life. For example, water changes form, manifesting as steam, water, or ice. It combines with many things, yet always maintains its own integrity.

Life is continually revolving in cycles.

Thought affects the movement of the electron around the nucleus of the atom. Energy directs thoughts; energy follows thoughts. Negative thoughts slow down the speed of the electron while the positive thoughts put it back into balance. Therefore we, by way of our own thoughts, have become creators or co-creators of our life by changing our own body chemistry.

Early on in my path, I found myself living life on autopilot with no concept of who I was or what I wanted. I “thought” that I wanted to climb the corporate ladder and become a successful business professional, until the day I realized that I had accomplished what I “thought” I wanted and felt completely unfulfilled. I had lost the creativity that I had as a child and felt disconnected from myself and the people around me. It wasn’t until I met Dr. Long that I began to shift my perspective.  

To think is creativity. Our life is a blank canvas and our choices paint the piece.

The more attention we give something by our thought or concentration, the more energy we give it, the more it grows. If you think about a problem over a period of time, you can create a thought-form that is out of control. The body will break down its natural resistance, and sometimes an illness may occur. At the same time, being creatures of choice, we can think of positive things as well and thereby bring things back under our control.  

The most powerful question to ask yourself when you feel stressed is “What am I choosing?” @RobinEmmerich (Click to Tweet!)

You have the power to tell your mind to be still and say to yourself,” I choose to be quiet, I am master over of my thoughts.”  

So, what will you choose?

Robin Emmerich has spent close to a decade coaching some of the most successful women in business. Even with their considerable success, the common denominator is that as much as they seemed to be cruising through life on the outside, they were melting on the inside. It’s why Robin just launched Beauty and the Mess—an athleisure brand creating a sisterhood who understands that life is messy and difficult and challenging, but together, can find the strength to prioritize passion over perfection and fearlessly seek beauty in their everyday lives. She currently offers the CIJourney online course, based on the famed Stanford Masters Degree Course, ‘Creativity in Business,’ individual coaching and worldwide retreats. Connect with Robin at on Instagram, or