Let’s get real and cut the crap. The Universe may not be the one speaking through you but rather the part of you that doesn’t desire to take responsibility may be the one speaking up.

This sister is tired. Tired and sick of our spiritual community using the Universe as an excuse to release all responsibility. The Universe has a plan and provides endless ways to help you on your sacred path and yet we take this for granted and use the Universe as an excuse to do whatever we f’in want without any deep acknowledgement that it’s causing disruption to our community and to ourselves.

Example 1.

Yes, I am committed to taking action today so that I may show my dedication to my dream. Oh wait, the Universe is telling me that I need to go under the covers and sleep. The card I pulled also stated I was to rest and restore so I must take the advice of my oracle card. And I forgot to tell you that I’m a severe introvert.

Example 2.

I feel a deep pull to work with this coach/healer. I’ve emailed her. Oh wait, I’ve now emailed her four–five times in the past two years about working with her. I trust that the timing hasn’t been aligned and the Universe is telling me to wait. I’ll disregard the email and wait for another opportunity. I trust the Universe will call me back and everything will work magically.

Example 3.

I have so much to say around “x” and I could write pages about it. This is my article submission to a well-known online magazine, yes! Oh wait, I need to do more inner work. So, I just had five healing sessions, spoke to my pendulum, muscle-tested, and realized that there is soooo much that needs to be done internally. Wait, I forgot what I was even wanting to share. I guess it wasn’t important and besides, there are people out there way more informed and spiritual who are speaking their truth so no one missed my share anyway.

Enough. With fierce love, I say enough.

The Universe totally has our back and our heart but what if we stopped using the Universe, Goddess, God, Great Spirit as our excuse to not step into our power and commit to change and evolution? What if we took the time to do our work and notice when it’s true and when it’s bullshit? That is courage.

Claim Sovereign Individuation please.

As human beings, we are gifted with one immense power and that is CHOICE. This means that we don’t give away our power to even the Divine. The Universe will whisper suggestions and we get to choose yes, no, or another path entirely. @sorasuryano (Click to Tweet!)

To lose yourself in the vortex of mindless devotion is what we are horrified by when we see it in other beings or communities that are different than us. So why do we get to do it while we rage against others and tell them they are wrong for believing in their own faith? Are we not being hypocritical? Why is it right for us and wrong for “them”?

So how do stay in Sovereign Individuation?

Step 1: Discern what is really going on and what is your truth. Step into your shadow world and notice if you are using the Universe to bypass the thing you don’t want to see in yourself.

Step 2: Be aware of your blind spots and where you are not taking responsibility. Do you not respect other people’s time? Are you constantly hiding? Do you say one thing but do something entirely different? Are you shaming others for areas that you are tangled in without realizing it. Do you feel passionate about your work, complain about it being hard, but spend more of your time procrastinating?

Step 3: Circle with close sisters. We aren’t designed to go about life and life’s lessons alone. Having a close group of people that you trust and who honor you deeply helps us discern when we are living our truth and when we are in misalignment. The circle of sisters that help call bullshit and tell us when we are not in integrity can feel painful but also liberating. Remember that this group of friends are sacred and are clearly doing their own inner work.

Step 4: Know that you’ll mess up. We are human after all and our lesson on this planet is to learn from our misalignments. We will lie, bypass, resist, be out of integrity, hide, blame, shame, and numb. It’s about whether we stay in those states or choose to move through them with grace and compassion.

Together, I believe we can do better. We do not need to be better for our soul’s essence is divine, sacred and good. But in our humanness, we can always clear our shit and be a yes to engaging with life and be in life with more intentional presence.

Sora Surya No is a sacred space holder, strategy alchemist, transformative business coach, corporate leadership consultant, powerful medicine-woman, business-healer, international retreat leader, inspirational speaker, fire-igniter, heart-whisperer, and world- traveler. She is the producer of Sacred Business Podcast, a co-producer of Priestess TV, and the author of the Stay Sacred Journal which you can purchase on Amazon. Sora works with sovereign spiritual womxn entrepreneurs to incorporate the art of feeling sacred into their business through earth-based practices. She leads highly successful individuals and groups through powerful experiences in her mastermind, on retreats, and from the stage. Sora blends real world experience with mystical transformation, ritualistic practices, inner reflection, conscious communication, and innovative circle work to help soulful leaders create great impact within their communities. Her mission is to remind spiritual womxn leaders that they have an equitable place in entrepreneurship. You can find out more about Sora and her work at her website.

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