Have you ever tried on a coat three sizes too tight?
Doesn’t the coat feel way too uncomfortable?
Going through this experience clues you in to the dirty little secret of success. But success requires a different level of discomfort. Truth be told, during my lean years, I wish being uncomfortable meant squeezing into a tight coat a few sizes too small.
I lost all my money a few times. Business died. I struggled for years during my early blogging days because I resisted the success secret few icons discuss: being highly uncomfortable on the success-seeking journey involves facing and feeling your deepest terrors. I believed I would feel a bit awkward or nervous here and there; no way did I know I needed to face and feel my deepest terrors to become successful.
Most everybody has seen a horror movie or scary TV show. Imagine a grotesque figure popping out from behind a door. Yikes! Your heart skips a beat. Do you lose your breath? Maybe.
Bottle up that same, palpable, pulsating emotion of terror and fright. Feel it. Taste it. Now imagine yourself feeling the same emotion when you are on the other side of the world and your cash reserves sit at $5. This is what those billionaires mean when discussing the word “uncomfortable” but virtually all of the general public envisions trying on a tight pair of jeans versus feeling the horror of having no money and wondering where your next meal will come from, and where you will sleep that night.
Most people refuse to even explore the idea of journeying a highly uncomfortable path, let alone a path leading into an emotional house of horrors. But to the general public, I say this: as a human who took the house of horrors path of discomfort during my decade as an entrepreneur, those moments of sheer panic and terror make up roughly 0.0001% of your dream-chasing journey. Mostly, being an entrepreneur feels fun, freeing, fulfilling and rewarding. Sometimes you feel a bit uncomfortable during tough moments. Rarely, you tap into the deep terrors associated with loss of money and business.
Purge Leads to Profits
Running out of money simply triggers emotions you need to face, feel and release to make a bunch more money consistently. Any time I lost my money, the terror-filled emotions gradually evolved into peace, calm and a state of knowing. The last time my bank account reached zero I had little fear about recovering quickly and easily. Plus I vowed that moment would never repeat itself again during my lifetime.
Uncomfortable emotional purges unearth fear-pain that needs to go for you to live your dreams. Nobody can sprint forward being weighed down by a 10 ton anchor of terror. Spirit simply uses the most attention-grabbing vehicle to trigger and allow you to feel these heavy, fear-based emotions so you can live your dreams.
Be at peace with the fact that these heavy moments of discomfort may not feel like squeezing into a t-shirt two sizes too small.
You will face your deepest fears to live your dreams but these powerful emotions are fleeting. Never allow the fear of facing fears to push you off of your life path.
Step toward your dreams. Get comfortable with being uncomfortable. Even though you will feel highly unpleasant emotions here and there, a few minutes of terror is worth living the life of your dreams. @RyanBiddulph (Click to Tweet!)
Ryan Biddulph is a blogger, author and world traveler who’s been featured on Richard Branson’s Virgin Blog, Forbes, Fox News, Entrepreneur, Positively Positive, Life Hack, John Chow Dot Com and Neil Patel Dot Com. He has written and self-published 126 bite-sized eBooks on Amazon. Ryan can help you build a successful blog at Blogging From Paradise.
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