Last night I sat on my couch, cheeks still wet from tears, soaked in the bittersweet moment of feeling sad that I was closing the cover of a book I’d just finished and that I was deeply moved by.

I both wanted there to be more to read and also felt so totally satisfied and changed by the experience of taking it in.

We’re three months away from the 2020 United States Presidential Election.

An election in the midst of a pandemic and racial justice awakening is an even bigger deal than your average election.

And so, here we are, entering a season of even more intensity.

Why am I talking about the election?

Because the book I finished last night is the manual for how we can come together as humans to heal in what is the most divisive time I’ve ever lived through (though I know that historically there have been more divisive times).

Four years ago, just before the presidential election of 2016, I sat in a huge auditorium in Brooklyn holding a dear friend’s hand and weeping as we listened to the author of this book offer her son’s birth story as a metaphor for the intense time we were navigating then.

She asked, “What if this darkness is not the darkness of the tomb, but the darkness of the womb? What if America is not dead, but a country that is waiting to be born?”

We passed tissues up and down the aisle to people we didn’t know, yet who were not strangers.

Valarie Kaur’s practice of Revolutionary Love is the blueprint we need to heal as a nation and as a world.

As hate crimes, xenophobia, white nationalism, and other symptoms of fear increase, now more than ever we need a new roadmap…one guided not only by love but also by the body and joy.

This week we’re sharing a new episode of The Kate & Mike Show, featuring activist, scholar, and bestselling author Valarie Kaur, and in it you’ll hear:

  • Why wonder is the path to true healing
  • What Valarie experienced at Guantanamo Bay and how it changed her
  • How to know when to breathe and when to push in the labor of revolutionary love
  • The freedom in forgiveness and how to do it even when it feels like you can’t
  • How to love your opponent (including how to know when it’s safe to do so and when it’s time to allow someone else to do it for you)
  • How to know what your role is in the transition of our country and world




  • What Valarie is most concerned about now that her book is published [7:31]
  • How she relates the current political happenings with being in labor [9:46]
  • The gift she received that very few mothers and activists ever get [13:18]
  • The way we can choose wonder over hate, and example of how Valarie does this [16:56]
  • The real meaning behind her latest book’s title [22:36]
  • Why we don’t need to be grinding and suffering in this work [26:51]
  • How we can determine what our role is in the revolutionary love movement [30:24]
  • How Valarie learned about forgiveness the hard way, and the lessons this experience has taught her [34:36]
  • What love has to do with the survival of our species [38:05]
  • Why everyone, especially men, need to get involved now – and how they can do it [43:01]

Listen here.

Kate Northrup is an entrepreneur, bestselling author, and mother who supports ambitious, motivated and successful women to light up the world without burning themselves out in the process. Committed to empowering women entrepreneurs to create their most successful businesses while navigating motherhood, Kate is the founder and CEO of Origin Collective, a monthly membership site where women all over the world gather to achieve more while doing less. Her first book, Money: A Love Story, has been published in 5 languages. Kate’s work has been featured by The Today Show, Yahoo! Finance, Women’s Health, Glamour, and The Huffington Post, and she’s spoken to audiences of thousands with Hay House, Wanderlust, USANA Health Sciences, and more. Kate lives with her husband and business partner, Mike, and their daughter Penelope in Maine. Find out more and receive your free copy of the 5 Simple and effective ways to get the results you want in your business at


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