The world is reacting from pain. That includes you and it includes me.

The pain of living in uncertain times and not sure when this roller coaster is going to end. The pain of a political nightmare that none of us can seem to wake up from. The pain of innocent lives being lost no matter which side of the fence you are looking from. Whether it is through the lens of COVID-19, economic despair, or racial inequalities to name a few.

That pain we are all feeling is bringing up strong and uncomfortable emotions that scare us to even admit we feel.

But they are there and they are present and most of us don’t know what to do with them. The most common three that I am witnessing are Fear, Anger and Hatred.

It is so easy to be blinded by them. By the rage you feel within, by the fear that is keeping you where you are at, and by the deep hate you feel for the other who thinks, feels and does differently than you.

This can cause all of us to show up and act out in ways that later will carry a lot of shame.

There is something under the surface that is calling us to look within and yet we continue to look outward. We look outward waiting for something to change, trying to find a solution, trying to put the blame somewhere, trying to force a different reality and trying to make ourselves feel better.

“It is their fault”

“They are to blame”

“If only we had  ________________ (fill in the blank).”

And yet as much as we keep screaming, pointing our fingers and raising our fists into the air we never feel a sense of relief. We continue to hope that if only the outer world changed all would be right again.

The outer world is not changing no matter how hard we scream.

We continue to be blinded by our anger, our fear and our hatred. Actually, it keeps growing because we are not willing to face ourselves.

So, stop! Stop being blinded by it.

Breathe and go within.

See the pain and hold it like an innocent child. Wrap your arms around it and feel. Give yourself permission to fully feel your pain. Even when it is uncomfortable – be with it.

Fully embody the pain with these steps:

  1. Recognize it by giving it a name…Anger, Rage, Fear, Anxiety, Worry, Mad, Sadness, etc.
  2. Locate where you are feeling it in your body.
  3. Describe how it feels in your body.
  4. Breathe into it and see how it wants to move.

Then when you are ready, when we feel a sense of ease even if that ease feels raw… begin to investigate.

Be curious about what is under the surface from this pain. Embrace it with compassion and love. You will begin to learn more deeply what is truly happening for you. You will start to understand why you have these strong emotions in the first place. Something wants to be seen and addressed within you.

This pain is something under the surface calling you inward. Are you listening to the call or reacting to the emotion?

Much Love & Light,


Kerri-Ann Appleton is an Empowerment Coach supporting women with coming into alignment with their highest self. She brings a hands-on approach combined with a spiritual blend.  She use all of her training and skills in coaching, neuroscience, meditation, Reiki, yoga and conscious living into one whole package to serve from.




Image courtesy of Anthony Tran.