Here are five ways to find love this year and/or burn your granny panties, shave, and/or give a shift about dating:

1. Fire your current social planner. Uh, YOU.

2. Realize that your “social planner” is the very same advisor that tells you to push “snooze” in the morning, and tries to sell you (and me) that coffee counts towards your water intake, and that one serving of almonds can’t possibly be 10-15.

3. Lose the wait, weight, or whatever you are sneakily using as an excuse to not have to meet your human anytime soon, while getting to “eat” what you want in the meantime.

4. Get ALL lies, exaggerations, and old and/or funky photos (in a bikini, with your six pack (beer or abs), with your twelve cats, etc.) out of your dating profile. If you are truly done with all of the BS you claim to hate, stop bullshitting and be yourself, only better.

5. Get clear about what you want, not what you don’t want. It’s not the same.

Sure, we’ve got more ways than Waze to help you find a great f-cking fling (literally) or the real thing. But this is a good start.



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Marnie Nir is Senior Vice President & Chief Content Officer and Expert Life Coach with Handel Group. She finally returned from Florida (a period in her life she likes to refer to as “witness protection”) to her home state of New York, but has shuffled around from New York to California and back again throughout her life. Marnie’s professional and personal life have come full-circle as well. A student of Slavic Language and Literature at UCLA, Marnie graduated with a BA and an understanding of Russian Literature as “purification through suffering”. Years later, after several jobs in publicity and production, most notably for the Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtle live tour (can’t make this stuff up), she began to see that, at least in her own life, suffering was not mandatory.  After marrying and giving birth to her first child, Marnie started coaching with her sister, Lauren Zander, creating the dream of who she wanted to be as not-her-mother. However, her work with Lauren took everything in her life to a much deeper level. More than a decade later, she is now an empty nester of two, co-author with Lauren Zander of Maybe It’s You, SVP of Chief Content Officer, and an Expert Life Coach in The Handel Method. She has also continued her creative work, namely as co-creator of the animated series Mother Up!, which aired 13 episodes on Hulu and starred Eva Longoria, serving as an expert at Campowerment, blogging for the Huffington Post, as well as writing her own blog (The Sour MILF).      

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